Comments on: 5 Things You Must Do When Your Spouse Has Had an Affair

By: Brooke

Brooke — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:15:15 +0000

Thank you so much for your blog and your words of wisdom. I found out 3 weeks ago today that my husband has had an affair for the last 1 1/2 years, and God is graciously drawing us both back to Him and slowly restoring our marriage, but of course, we both want all the pain to be gone in an instant. It is such a comfort to see other people who have gone through this and survived it. Thank you for being willing to share your story of God's rescue and hope in your lives!

By: Desperate and Broken

Desperate and Broken — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:53:54 +0000

I can not express how much gratitude i have for you two, your story, and your prayers. Thank You

By: Justin and Trisha

Justin and Trisha — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 16:54:10 +0000

Desperate and Broken…we are praying for you and your family daily!

By: Desperate and Broken

Desperate and Broken — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 14:24:58 +0000

Thanks for sharing this Trish. God is showing me what a horrible person I have been to her for ten years only culminating in the affair. Looking back i can't believe she had the character to stay with me this long. I pray she takes the steps through the process of healing for herself. It helps to understand a little what she is going through right now. I keep praying that God can shine a little light into her life through all the pain, hurt, and anger. My prayer is that she has the opportunity to see the man God is only beginning to chisel me into. Please continue to pray for her and us.

By: Kerry

Kerry — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:52:26 +0000

There is tremendous freedom in having your worst fears realized, and finding out that Jesus is enough. It wasn't until my heart was able to believe and feel that truth that I was able to breathe again, and start doing the things I needed to do to reclaim my marriage. Thanks, Trisha!

By: Trish Davis

Trish Davis — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 17:00:08 +0000

Mom!
I love you and I can't wait for our readers to get to hear from you and your amazing story of love, leadership and heartache! I treasure you beyond words!! Thank you for your post!

By: Mom

Mom — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:10:54 +0000

Wonderful teaching Trish. Let us strive to know that in all our heartaches God loves us and He is enough even when we don't know it or can't feel it.
"In that day," declares the LORD, "you will call me 'my husband'; you will no longer call me 'my master.' . . . I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the LORD." (Hosea 2:16, 19-20)

By: Trish Davis

Trish Davis — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:46:35 +0000

BaBaloo ~ Thank you for your honesty. I echo the words of Duane. Its all so hard and honestly it just sucks! Sin is messy. YOU could do all the "steps" Justin and I talked about but if your spouse doesn't choose God or choose change then they most-likely won't choose your marriage. I know what it feels like not to be chosen. As unfair and cruel as it all felt eventually I felt a sense of peace that Jesus will be enough. I know that sound so Christianeese but when I'm making that statement looking into the eyes of my three precious boys I really mean it. When I became anchored in the simple fact that Jesus was enough the fears of the "what if's" didn't have as tight of a hold on my heart. Rather than dwelling only on what was lost each new day He would give me a little bit more sense of peace and hope only found in him. We will pray for restoration!

By: Trish Davis

Trish Davis — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:28:10 +0000

Thank you Susan!

By: Trish Davis

Trish Davis — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:27:34 +0000

Never really understood the verse "if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation the Old has GONE and the NEW has come" Although this journey has been painful to see the new creation He has created us both to be as well as our marriage… I'm just really grateful! I love you deeply!