How Can We Pray For You?
One of our desires for RefineUs is to create a place where people can go to find honesty, hope, healing and a community that cares. Over the past few weeks, we have spoken to several people that feel hopeless in their marriage; they feel disappointed with choices they have made; they have huge regrets and a pile of baggage. Â What is tough is realizing how powerless we are to change a whole lot of these circumstances…but what we have learned is that there is power in prayer. I can’t change you. I can’t change my wife. You can’t change your husband. You can’t change your daughter. BUT GOD CAN.
So this week, Trisha and I are going to set aside some time to just pray for you. How can we pray for you, for your marriage, for your family? Leave a comment below and join us in praying for people in the RefineUs community. If you don’t feel comfortable leaving your name, that is okay. God knows who you are, and we will still pray!
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Pray for my wife and I as we work at rebuilding our life.
2 Corinthians 5:17 (New International Version)
17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
Praying your old marriage is gone and dead and that Christ will help you build a new marriage that is so amazing you will be thankful for the journey you are on to get there!
Right now I just need prayer for health. This virus is NOT my friend. (Although it is making it easier to stick to my diet…. )
We will pray Amy and I love your humor in the wait!
Justin and Trish – I've had lunch with Brian Clayville, corresponded with Alece, read your blog, etc. etc. so it was only a matter of time before I chimed in here. I've been divorced for nearly 6 months but have unexplainable hope for reconciliation with my ex even though there has been someone else in the picture for two years. So I would graciously ask that you pray for her to be reconciled with God and that our marriage would be restored. Thank you so much for allowing God to use you to minister to those who have experienced brokenness in their relationships.
Rainer…I am so sorry to hear about all that you have been through! You are in our prayers…the restoration of your marriage is in our prayers…the brokenness of your wife is in our prayers. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. Please let us know if we can serve you in any way!
I woke up this morning, asking God to for someone to pray in agreement with me. wow.
Please pray for me, that I will continue to grow in my relationship with God and stand strong in faith, not looking at circumstances, but at His promises. Please pray for my husband, the man that I vowed to be with for the rest of my life..the man that is choosing right now not to honor that vow…that his eyes may be opened so that he can see the way out that God has promised and can stand up under the temptation. Please pray for my children so that they can better understand that just because God isn't answering their prayers today, doesn't mean He's not answering them–it just means we have to be patient, have faith and trust Him…no matter what.
Thank you more than you know. I will pray for you as well.
Stephanie…please know that we are agreeing with you in prayer! I personally, will be praying that your husband will find brokenness, that he will hit rock bottom, so that he will turn back to God. What really broke me is Lamentations 3…where it just talks about God breaking our bones and crushing our teeth against gravel. That is what I needed, and maybe what your husband needs. You are in our prayers.
Justin…you know a lot of what I'm wrestling with right now so please keep praying for me on all of those things.
You are in my prayers Jason…
I humbly ask that stand in agreement with me for the restoration of my marriage. Pray for me that I won't let bitterness and anger overtake me. Pray for my husband who has decided to travel down the road of adultery–that his eyes will be opened and his heart of stone will be turned to flesh.
Traci…just wanted you to know we prayed for you. I know from personal experience, God does have the power to take our heart of stone and give us a brand new heart! I am praying for that!
You can be praying for my future husband!
Girl I heart you!
I heart you right back!
Thanks!!!! Your awesome!
I continue to pray that my ex husband would have a change of heart toward reconciling. I pray that God would restore to us the many years the locust ate away. I pray that he would find God again because I feel he has turned away and walked away from Him. He is taking our three grown children skiing this weekend and I pray that God would speak to him about family. I pray that he could totally forgive me for what I did.
Pam we will be praying that the Holy Spirit will whisper to your heart what to pray! I urge you to go out and buy "Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormi Omartian. This book was life changing in learning how to pray for each other. We will pray that the Lord would use your children to remind your ex-husband how good God is even when we are not!
Please pray for my family. My wife filed for divorce in June. We have been married for 15 years, and we have 3 kids (10,7,5). I have been on my knees in prayer since last january, when she told me she was no longer "in love" with me.
We have lost our home to foreclosure due to the divorce. My kids only get to see either of us for a week, then get shuttled to the other home. I miss my family. My wife is moving in with the man she met on the internet 18 months ago. We are still going through the divorce, and it is so hard to watch the person you vowed to love till death do us part, want to take everything she can from you to be with another man. Please pray for my kids, they lose no matter how this turns out.
Tom ~ I will not fake this response to you… your post is heart breaking and I resonate with your feelings. Although that is not the direction our journey took us there were points that your reality became very real. I tell people all the time… The ONLY reason that Justin and I stayed married is because we BOTH choose God. Only God could help me not get sucked into staying angry and bitter. Only God could crush Justin with the desire to make him a new creation! Don't give-up!! Keep praying! Keep praying for wisdom on how to respond both with grace AND tough love towards your wife. If you seek HIM you will find him I promise. It may not be the results you desire but He will never leave you or your children regardless of your marital status! Thank you for sharing!! We will pray!
My heart aches for so many in marital distress!!! I can't imagine what that is like, at all… Praying for each of you.
Sam and I are incredibly blessed in our marriage… and hit our first real rough patch in almost 10 years this past year. Our finances have totally fallen apart – like so many – as we were struggling to recover from his job change 2 years ago and my business coming to a crawl this past year. It is so tempting to take that frustration out on each other. We've been so blessed to both know God and commit to keeping ourselves grounded so that we can get through this together and ultimately, be that much stronger. But there are days where it's tough to keep the emotional drainage in check and to make the conscious choice to support each other instead of falling into the resentful trap.
So, please pray for opportunities for income – new clients – sale of assets – etc … and continued strength while we work hard to recover.
i'd so appreciate your prayers. right now i'm setting aside some time to still myself before the Lord in a way that i haven't in a long while. i'm desperate for His touch, His voice, His healing for my heart. would you pray with me for that?
would you also pray for my "husband" (still not ready to say "ex") – that his heart would turn back toward the Lord?
thank you. really.
Alece ~ I have such a deep love and appreciation for you! There are really no words to explain how special I think you are. I know what its like to lose a dream and in some was not able to go back and complete it. I know you may not see it now but you are such a source of hope and light. You are raw, honest and hope-filled that God has plan for you, your husband and your family and ministry in Africa! I love your heart for your husband even after all the hurt…. Thank you for allowing us into your pain! We are praying!!
Paula ~ Thank you for encouragement for those who will read this! You nailed an important formula to a healthy marriage…. recognizing that your spouse is not your enemy but rather your teammate. Recognizing this truth is half the battle then we have to learn how to respond to each other with this in mind. Easy to say SO HARD to do!!
My marriage is the biggest blessing of my life. I am so very thankful for all that we have.
But it is hard to "let go" of the "blessing of the Lord" – children. We have had 3 miscarriages & are old enough that children are unlikely to come, now. (We've been over the adoption thing & it is not viable for us, tho we wouldn't be opposed if some obstacles could be removed.) It is too easy to focus on this disappointment & lose sight of the wonderful things we do have. It is hard to get past the, "Children are a blessing from the Lord" & feeling that we are not blessed & never will be.
I'm finding my real vices to fight are envy & jealousy of the families of other people. A bit of sarcasm (internal) with that as well. "Oh, how very nice for YOU." Bitterness is a struggle too. I'm very disabled by chronic illness & it is hard to feel like the world is passing me by.
Thank you for being willing to pray for us.
Kathryn,
Just want you know that we are praying for you. While I know scripture says that children are a blessing from the Lord, I think what God wants you to know is that they are ONE of His blessings. Just because you don't have children doesn't mean you aren't blessed. I won't pretend I know how you feel, but I do want to encourage you that God's blessings can't be boxed in with children…they are much more vast and deep than that.
We are praying for you and lifting you up!
i want to thank you for this and the time you spend ministering to other people during their darkest hours.
please pray for my husband and i, our 2 year old son, and our church. i have so much hurt and confusion from his affair, his lies, and his treatment of me for our 10 year marriage. right now i am just so confused and at a loss of what to do next and i have to make the decisions. i have to protect my son and myself. i have decided to work on this marriage and not get a divorce right now. most immediately, i don't know when to let him come back home. there are times i feel so weak and lonely, i want him home. but i don't know what is healthy. we both have to allow God to heal us and make us healthy and whole so our marriage can have a chance. i just don't know what to do right now. i am not patient and so my instinct is to rush this. i don't want to do that. but i need strength to stand on my own two feel and let God direct me. it just hurts so much!
this is just so hard. it feels so impossible. i just don't know what to do.
Vicky…I am sure Trisha will respond to you when she can…but please know you are in our prayers and we are asking God for brokenness in your husband's life and healing and peace in yours. God has the power to restore and resurrect your marriage and we are believing Him for that!
My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. We have a 2 year old daughter who is the best part of both of our lives. However, we are struggling with being connected to each other. We're definitely more like room mates than deeply in love husband and wife. While we both contributed to this state, I know that I can be emotionally unavailable and my first instinct is to pull back at the first sign of trouble. Can you pleas pray that we can re-connect and have the marriage God intended us to have and that my heart can be more open toward my husband? Thanks.
Elaine,
Thank you for your honesty. What you are saying is something that we hear often, so please know you are not alone in how you are feeling. Trisha recommended to another person the book The Power of a Praying Wife. That is something I highly recommend to you, as I think it will help you know how to pray for your husband in a way that unites your hearts and souls. We will be praying for him, and for you as well.
My wife and I are seperated. She has moved to another city and filed for divorce. I do not want this! She is also a non-believer. Please join me in praying that the Lord will fill our hearts with the Holy Spirit. That she will come to know and love Jesus and that our marriage may be restored. Thank you and may God bless you.
Josh,
Wow…my heart just breaks for you. I am so sorry for your pain and the hurt you are feeling. We are praying for you, we are praying for her, and we are praying that your marriage can be restored. No matter what she chooses, you choosing God during this time is going to mold you and shape you into the person God longs for you to be!
Hi there J & T. I have been married for a month. I can't remember exactly how I stumbled upon your blog, but the first thing I saw was your two posts on "8 things". My husband is a graduate theology student and there are a lot of demands on his time with school work. At the moment we are trying to build good foundations and good, healthy routines in our marriage and trying to find time for us amongst it all. If you have a quick moment to pray for us in that, that would be wonderful.
Though we are not in trouble, I have found your blog to be very helpful in illustrating how easily things can slip if we're not paying attention and actively loving each other well. Thanks for that!
I'm so thankful that things have come back together for you both!
With love xx
thank you so much for your note of encouragement. Please know that you are in our prayers. Life never slows down…it only speeds up. If you can set the right course now, you will be so far ahead years from now. If we can serve you in any way, please let us know!
Please pray for me and my wife. She moved out about 6 weeks ago now and told me she has feelings for another guy (a non-Christian). I have turned my life around from struggles ranging from pornography to depression and all that comes with those things. But it seems she is running from God and there's nothing I can do about it. Her name is Vanessa. We've been married a little over 3 1/2 years. Thank you for your testimony and courage. I have found your blog a tremendous blessing during this time.
Kyle…my heart is breaking for you, and for your wife. We are praying for you guys! Please let us know if we can serve you in any way.