Comments on: One Thing: Part 3-Chad and Sarah http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/ Restoring Hope | Renewing Relationships Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:10:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Deidrah http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-1808 Deidrah Fri, 19 Feb 2010 23:04:13 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-1808 I got married at 28 my husband was 5 years older. We knew each other a short period of time before we got married (less than 1 year). Not only is growing up important but you can be older and not really know how someone is spiritually. My marriage has ended in divorce after trying everything for 10 years. I should have waited also. I was the oldest single in church and everyone kept asking "When is it your turn?" This article is so true in more ways than one. If God every puts someone in my life again, I will definitely not jump to quickly. I got married at 28 my husband was 5 years older. We knew each other a short period of time before we got married (less than 1 year). Not only is growing up important but you can be older and not really know how someone is spiritually. My marriage has ended in divorce after trying everything for 10 years. I should have waited also. I was the oldest single in church and everyone kept asking "When is it your turn?" This article is so true in more ways than one. If God every puts someone in my life again, I will definitely not jump to quickly.

]]> By: Deidrah http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-8079 Deidrah Fri, 19 Feb 2010 23:04:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-8079 I got married at 28 my husband was 5 years older. We knew each other a short period of time before we got married (less than 1 year). Not only is growing up important but you can be older and not really know how someone is spiritually. My marriage has ended in divorce after trying everything for 10 years. I should have waited also. I was the oldest single in church and everyone kept asking "When is it your turn?" This article is so true in more ways than one. If God every puts someone in my life again, I will definitely not jump to quickly. I got married at 28 my husband was 5 years older. We knew each other a short period of time before we got married (less than 1 year). Not only is growing up important but you can be older and not really know how someone is spiritually. My marriage has ended in divorce after trying everything for 10 years. I should have waited also. I was the oldest single in church and everyone kept asking "When is it your turn?" This article is so true in more ways than one. If God every puts someone in my life again, I will definitely not jump to quickly.

]]> By: Jennifer http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-1805 Jennifer Fri, 19 Feb 2010 22:44:35 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-1805 I too got married young (19) but my husband was 25. Two years into our marriage he had an affair. We chose to stay the course and try to rebuild and we seemed to have done that. We celebrated 14 years of marriage 3 months ago, and now almost on the day he formerly told me of his affair, he told me last night that he doesn't know what the future holds. To say that I was blindsided may be fairly accurate. I knew that something was up, the intimacy (not necessarily sexual) was not quite right, and I have been feeling many of the same feelings of being unwanted that I felt 12 years ago for a couple of weeks. However nothing prepared me for our conversation last night. I KNOW that God can heal this! I KNOW that my marriage is in His capable hands! However, I also know that the next season of my life will be difficult. I don't know what tomorrow will bring. I do know that I will do my best to protect our children, and that I need to invest more into our relationship... however I also know that we BOTH need to invest more into that relationship. I have been reading the blogs of most of the couples that are posting this week for a while now, and I am encouraged. Thank you for your willingness to share your stories. Thank you for being examples that it can work out - it is hard, yes, but it can be done. Neither of us are the same people we were when we made those vows, however I am hopeful that somewhere in the core of who we are there is still something is still there. Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability... you are being used to bring hope and encouragement! I too got married young (19) but my husband was 25. Two years into our marriage he had an affair. We chose to stay the course and try to rebuild and we seemed to have done that. We celebrated 14 years of marriage 3 months ago, and now almost on the day he formerly told me of his affair, he told me last night that he doesn't know what the future holds.

To say that I was blindsided may be fairly accurate. I knew that something was up, the intimacy (not necessarily sexual) was not quite right, and I have been feeling many of the same feelings of being unwanted that I felt 12 years ago for a couple of weeks. However nothing prepared me for our conversation last night.

I KNOW that God can heal this! I KNOW that my marriage is in His capable hands! However, I also know that the next season of my life will be difficult. I don't know what tomorrow will bring. I do know that I will do my best to protect our children, and that I need to invest more into our relationship… however I also know that we BOTH need to invest more into that relationship.

I have been reading the blogs of most of the couples that are posting this week for a while now, and I am encouraged. Thank you for your willingness to share your stories. Thank you for being examples that it can work out – it is hard, yes, but it can be done.

Neither of us are the same people we were when we made those vows, however I am hopeful that somewhere in the core of who we are there is still something is still there.

Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability… you are being used to bring hope and encouragement!

]]> By: Jennifer http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-8078 Jennifer Fri, 19 Feb 2010 22:44:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-8078 I too got married young (19) but my husband was 25. Two years into our marriage he had an affair. We chose to stay the course and try to rebuild and we seemed to have done that. We celebrated 14 years of marriage 3 months ago, and now almost on the day he formerly told me of his affair, he told me last night that he doesn't know what the future holds. To say that I was blindsided may be fairly accurate. I knew that something was up, the intimacy (not necessarily sexual) was not quite right, and I have been feeling many of the same feelings of being unwanted that I felt 12 years ago for a couple of weeks. However nothing prepared me for our conversation last night. I KNOW that God can heal this! I KNOW that my marriage is in His capable hands! However, I also know that the next season of my life will be difficult. I don't know what tomorrow will bring. I do know that I will do my best to protect our children, and that I need to invest more into our relationship... however I also know that we BOTH need to invest more into that relationship. I have been reading the blogs of most of the couples that are posting this week for a while now, and I am encouraged. Thank you for your willingness to share your stories. Thank you for being examples that it can work out - it is hard, yes, but it can be done. Neither of us are the same people we were when we made those vows, however I am hopeful that somewhere in the core of who we are there is still something is still there. Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability... you are being used to bring hope and encouragement! I too got married young (19) but my husband was 25. Two years into our marriage he had an affair. We chose to stay the course and try to rebuild and we seemed to have done that. We celebrated 14 years of marriage 3 months ago, and now almost on the day he formerly told me of his affair, he told me last night that he doesn't know what the future holds.

To say that I was blindsided may be fairly accurate. I knew that something was up, the intimacy (not necessarily sexual) was not quite right, and I have been feeling many of the same feelings of being unwanted that I felt 12 years ago for a couple of weeks. However nothing prepared me for our conversation last night.

I KNOW that God can heal this! I KNOW that my marriage is in His capable hands! However, I also know that the next season of my life will be difficult. I don't know what tomorrow will bring. I do know that I will do my best to protect our children, and that I need to invest more into our relationship… however I also know that we BOTH need to invest more into that relationship.

I have been reading the blogs of most of the couples that are posting this week for a while now, and I am encouraged. Thank you for your willingness to share your stories. Thank you for being examples that it can work out – it is hard, yes, but it can be done.

Neither of us are the same people we were when we made those vows, however I am hopeful that somewhere in the core of who we are there is still something is still there.

Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability… you are being used to bring hope and encouragement!

]]> By: Justin and Trisha http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-1/#comment-1774 Justin and Trisha Fri, 19 Feb 2010 13:03:42 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-1774 Well said! Well said!

]]> By: Justin and Trisha http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-1/#comment-8072 Justin and Trisha Fri, 19 Feb 2010 13:03:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-8072 Well said! Well said!

]]> By: brent(inWorship) http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-1783 brent(inWorship) Fri, 19 Feb 2010 07:36:42 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-1783 Sarah and Chad, I am so sorry that some have chosen to focus one one small part of your post and not to really listen to your heart and your concern for marriage. I love that you both are willing to I understand that marriage is tough. Daily it is a sacrifice. Daily we choose to give instead of receive. Marriage IS harder. It is way easier to live life single and selfish. But in marriage, we choose to live for the other person. I love what you said, "We would have put wisdom before desire; sacrifice before self; the Cross before our future." Thank you for your wisdom and example! Sarah and Chad, I am so sorry that some have chosen to focus one one small part of your post and not to really listen to your heart and your concern for marriage.

I love that you both are willing to I understand that marriage is tough. Daily it is a sacrifice. Daily we choose to give instead of receive. Marriage IS harder. It is way easier to live life single and selfish. But in marriage, we choose to live for the other person.

I love what you said, “We would have put wisdom before desire; sacrifice before self; the Cross before our future.”

Thank you for your wisdom and example!

]]> By: brent(inWorship) http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-8077 brent(inWorship) Fri, 19 Feb 2010 07:36:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-8077 Sarah and Chad, I am so sorry that some have chosen to focus one one small part of your post and not to really listen to your heart and your concern for marriage. I love that you both are willing to I understand that marriage is tough. Daily it is a sacrifice. Daily we choose to give instead of receive. Marriage IS harder. It is way easier to live life single and selfish. But in marriage, we choose to live for the other person. I love what you said, "We would have put wisdom before desire; sacrifice before self; the Cross before our future." Thank you for your wisdom and example! Sarah and Chad, I am so sorry that some have chosen to focus one one small part of your post and not to really listen to your heart and your concern for marriage.

I love that you both are willing to I understand that marriage is tough. Daily it is a sacrifice. Daily we choose to give instead of receive. Marriage IS harder. It is way easier to live life single and selfish. But in marriage, we choose to live for the other person.

I love what you said, “We would have put wisdom before desire; sacrifice before self; the Cross before our future.”

Thank you for your wisdom and example!

]]> By: Justin and Trisha http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-2/#comment-1777 Justin and Trisha Fri, 19 Feb 2010 06:05:47 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-1777 Thank you Alison! Thank you Alison!

]]> By: Justin and Trisha http://refineus.org/2010/02/one-thing-part-3-chad-and-sarah/comment-page-1/#comment-1778 Justin and Trisha Fri, 19 Feb 2010 06:05:09 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=1438#comment-1778 Great thoughts Paula! Great thoughts Paula!

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