What Lies Beneath

The last 7 days have been unlike anything I have ever experienced. I have gone from being the most non-construction, least mechanical man alive, to a deconstruction, mold eradicating, drywall and carpet ripping pro. We have served 17 homes in our neighborhood; carrying out their furniture, taking out their carpet, tearing out their drywall, insulation, baseboards, door frames, window sills, fireplace mantles, appliances and kitchen cabinets. It has been overwhelming to see most of the things that make a house a home for my neighbors piled up in their front yards. I wish I hadn’t had to learn so much about flood recovery.

A few days ago, I received word that one of my neighbors wasn’t going to remove their drywall or wood flooring and was going to save their bathtubs and their furniture.  They thought they were safe just removing carpet. They took their baseboards out, poked some holes in their dry wall, removed their carpet, and moved their dried out furniture back into their house. Their wet clothes still hung in their closets.

I began to explain to them the danger that they were in. They didn’t believe me at first. They couldn’t see any mold. Their drywall looked fine above the line where it had flooded. They were going to treat what was visible and move on with their life.

I put my hammer into their wall and pulled away the drywall. I pulled out a soaking piece of insulation that had already begun to grow mold. I told them that it wasn’t what they could see that was dangerous; it was what lied beneath the surface that could be deadly. I told them that they had to be committed to doing whatever was necessary to remove any hint of mold in their house; otherwise they would be in trouble.

As I was thinking about my life, I have seen the same pattern in me. There have been times in my life where I have settled for treating only what is visible. There have been deadly sin patterns or hazardous heart conditions that weren’t visible to others, but I knew existed. I didn’t believe it would be all that dangerous. I treated that which was most obvious and hoped that which lied beneath would just go away. It destroyed my life, my marriage and my relationship with God.

Maybe you are there right now…you pretend like everything is fine…but it’s not:

  • There’s no visible sign of sexual sin, but in your heart you have lustful thoughts for a co-worker.
  • There’s no visible sign of an anger problem, but in your heart you have bitterness toward a family member.
  • There’s no visible envy in your life, but in your heart you are so jealous of the life your sister has; or the wife your brother has; or the job your friend has.
  • There are no visible forgiveness issues, but in you heart you resent your husband.
  • There are no visible problems in your marriage, but in your heart you have left your spouse a thousand times.

The times in my life that I have felt the farthest from God and have compromised my values the most, are the times that I knew something lied beneath the surface and wasn’t committed to tear away all of the junk around my heart and get to the place where restoration could begin.

Have you tried to find restoration without being committed to deconstruction?

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/merche12 anewcreation

    Wow! That hit a raw nerve with me. Thank you for your honesty and for being the hammer that has struck the first blow to begin deconstruction in my life patterns and attitude?

    Isn't it just amazing how God can exemplify in the natural what He wants us to do in the spiritual? Once you were the person ignoring the decay behind the surface of your life, and now you are the one being used as the tool to renew other's commitment to Christ-likeness. You are blessed indeed!

    God bless you!

  • http://twitter.com/kimbi352 @kimbi352

    This message was exactly what I needed this morning! Sometimes the hardest task to take on at the present moment, ends up being the easiest in the long run.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      So glad God used this for you today!

  • http://robedwardslive.com Rob Edwards

    Great word to start a new week!
    My recent post Sermon Audio: Do You Have the Courage to be Whole? 05.09.10

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      thanks Rob!

  • http://robedwardslive.com Rob Edwards

    Great word to start a new week!
    My recent post Sermon Audio: Do You Have the Courage to be Whole? 05.09.10

    • Dangerous Christian

      Just heard the sermon and was blessed by it. Thanks for letting God use you.

      • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

        Thanks!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    great post, bro. I have definitely seen this pattern in my life, and in a few ways, I do even now. I needed this reminder today.
    My recent post BOOK REVIEW: Plan B by Pete Wilson

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins
  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    great post, bro. I have definitely seen this pattern in my life, and in a few ways, I do even now. I needed this reminder today.
    My recent post BOOK REVIEW: Plan B by Pete Wilson

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    great post, bro. I have definitely seen this pattern in my life, and in a few ways, I do even now. I needed this reminder today.
    My recent post BOOK REVIEW: Plan B by Pete Wilson

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    great post, bro. I have definitely seen this pattern in my life, and in a few ways, I do even now. I needed this reminder today.
    My recent post BOOK REVIEW: Plan B by Pete Wilson

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    great post, bro. I have definitely seen this pattern in my life, and in a few ways, I do even now. I needed this reminder today.
    My recent post BOOK REVIEW: Plan B by Pete Wilson

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JasonWert JasonWert
  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JasonWert JasonWert

    This is an easy pattern with which to live your life. I think if people were honest everyone has SOMETHING beneath the surface. It's the little things that come out when you think you're alone like when a co-worker does something irritating to you and then you mutter under your breath something out of anger.

    Being honest, I'm pretty moldy inside. Sometimes I wonder if it's too moldy.
    My recent post Countdown to Blue Ridge: 6 days to go…

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      What I've found is any mold is too much mold…its why I want to constantly evaluate this in my life.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JasonWert JasonWert

    This is an easy pattern with which to live your life. I think if people were honest everyone has SOMETHING beneath the surface. It's the little things that come out when you think you're alone like when a co-worker does something irritating to you and then you mutter under your breath something out of anger.

    Being honest, I'm pretty moldy inside. Sometimes I wonder if it's too moldy.
    My recent post Countdown to Blue Ridge: 6 days to go…

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/allisonroberts allisonroberts

    I needed this today. Great post!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Thank you allison!

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/allisonroberts allisonroberts

    I needed this today. Great post!

  • Dangerous Christian

    Good Morning! Happy belated Mother’s Day, Trisha!

    Talk about God’s confirmations! This morning God’s been hitting me with the word, “cleansing”. He took me to Psalm 51 where David asked to be cleansed, purged.

    I know too well about mold in the house and what it can do. However, the phrase that comes to mind is “ticking time bomb”. A lot of these things we ignore will blow up in our lives if not defused.

    May God help us to get down to what lies beneath, gut out the mold & rot, and defuse these time bombs in out lives-no matter what it may cost.

    Thanks and God’s blessings!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Amen to that…great thoughts!

  • Ani

    This is something I had on my mind lately. A familymember (I don't want to mention who it is because he doesn't choose to be mentioned here) took advantage of my trust continuously. My fault was let him have the space to do that and let him pass my boundaries. That part is my responsibility. I'm aware of that. He has never apologized and when I want to speak about it he laughs and walks away. Because of the hurt and to protect myself I made clear to him I didn't want any contact. He tried to get in contact with me again. After a while I realized I had to forgive him otherwise it was going to hurt me more. I asked the Lord to help me to forgive him. I did but lately I realize there is a little dark place in my heart I keep hold of the hurt and I tend to be bitter about him. I don't want to be. I've never been this way I always chose to look at the good things. I choose to love him. I'm so aware of me being forgiven and given a new chance by God over and over again when I made and make a mistake so he deserves that too. I know it's not me to judge over him it's all God's.
    That's it, this blog did it, I have to work on it now. So maybe I'll let you know how it will go. I think I need prayer …because it hurts.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Wow! thank you so much for your honesty! I am praying for you and would love to serve you however we can! Hoping the hurt gets better as time goes on.

      • Ani

        Thanks. You're both so kind and faithful. I wasn't fine for two days since I wrote my reply. But after that I was fine. Sometimes it comes back but I'm fine now, I finally I told someone I trust about this and I get help for this.

  • http://robynwbuxton.blogspot.com robyn

    I know this feeling so well………. Heard it once said or written that if God took us into a room that was filled with post-it notes each with our sins (yep, even the ones no one else sees or knows about) how many post-its would there be? Then one by one He would place post-it after post-it with the words "AT THE CROSS" over each sin one by one…. Covering our sins…

    Precious Lord. Redeemer. Friend.

    Sometimes we gotta uncover what we don't even know is hidden….

    Thanks for the post.
    My recent post God's Power in Us

  • http://robynwbuxton.blogspot.com robyn

    I know this feeling so well………. Heard it once said or written that if God took us into a room that was filled with post-it notes each with our sins (yep, even the ones no one else sees or knows about) how many post-its would there be? Then one by one He would place post-it after post-it with the words "AT THE CROSS" over each sin one by one…. Covering our sins…

    Precious Lord. Redeemer. Friend.

    Sometimes we gotta uncover what we don't even know is hidden….

    Thanks for the post.
    My recent post God's Power in Us

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      praying for the strength to uncover what we don't even know is hidden…

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/merche12 anewcreation

    Wow! That hit a raw nerve with me. Thank you for your honesty and for being the hammer that has struck the first blow to begin deconstruction in my life patterns and attitude?

    Isn't it just amazing how God can exemplify in the natural what He wants us to do in the spiritual? Once you were the person ignoring the decay behind the surface of your life, and now you are the one being used as the tool to renew other's commitment to Christ-likeness. You are blessed indeed!

    God bless you!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Thank you so much. I do feel so blessed!

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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/lightchild Grant Jenkins

    I've been thinking about this all day, and the analogy has hit me like a hammer. As I think back over all the stories I've heard over the last couple days, and how some want to hang on and not remove what's deadly, others gladly open their doors for you to help them, while others let you in, but want to kind of micro-manage what you can take and what they think they can still organize and manage. And then you have my life… where am I in all that? I think I've got all 3 happening, just in different rooms. Ok, I'm a mess now. Thanks Justin. Dammit… ;)
    My recent post BOOK REVIEW: Plan B by Pete Wilson

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Your comment reminds me of an awesome song Shaun Groves wrote years ago called Welcome Home…I listened to it after I read your comment…wrecked me.

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/jenniferjanes Jennifer Janes
  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/jenniferjanes Jennifer Janes

    Thank you so much! I will be thinking and praying about this post for a long time.

    ~Jennifer
    My recent post Mother’s Day

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Thank you Jennifer

  • http://elainaavalos.blogspot.com Elaina

    This post really struck a chord. Don't have much in the way of words other than that and thanks.
    My recent post Home & Plan B

  • http://elainaavalos.blogspot.com Elaina

    This post really struck a chord. Don't have much in the way of words other than that and thanks.
    My recent post Home & Plan B

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Glad God used it today!

  • http://beckyjmiller.com Becky

    So true, we try to pretty up the outside and completely ignore the blackness oozing from the inside. Most of us are afraid that if we take the time to examine ourselves then A) we are not going to like what we see and B) we are then accountable.
    My recent post Emotionally Wrecked

  • http://beckyjmiller.com Becky

    So true, we try to pretty up the outside and completely ignore the blackness oozing from the inside. Most of us are afraid that if we take the time to examine ourselves then A) we are not going to like what we see and B) we are then accountable.
    My recent post Emotionally Wrecked

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      Totally agree with you!

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  • http://kugirl84.wordpress.com/ Chelsea

    This was such a great post to read. I have found many times where I try to just do little maintenance and think I will be fine and realize there is a problem with my heart. I have to fix things at the core because that will affect my entire body. I'm still amazed to this day at how we think we have to walk into church all perfect or at least show that to everyone. We are a broken people and I shouldn't be afraid to be open with others. Unfortunately for me I've been judged so many times in the past that I've chosen to hide some of the biggest struggles I've faced. I really appreciate the analogies you wrote here. I think it has made a lot of people including me, really evaluate our own lives and think about the work that needs to be done underneath. And sometimes for that work or restoration to happen, some tearing down and stripping of ourselves needs to happen for that to work. Wonderful post!
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    • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

      chelsea, so sorry you have felt judged and hurt by the church! Thank you for your thoughts here. We are all broken and need healing. If we all lived in that more, we'd help others so much more than we do!

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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/davisfamily05 Justin and Trisha

    thanks bro!

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