December 8, 2011 in Marriage,Marriage Coaching with 324 Comments

Worth Fighting For

I sat on the couch last night next to Trisha, fighting to stay awake while we watched TV. Six years ago this week I was fighting to stay married to her. She was fighting to forgive me for an affair. I was fighting to be honest. We were fighting to find a new start. We were fighting to pay bills. For the first time in our 10 year marriage, we were fighting for each other, not with each other. I would never choose the path we took, but I wouldn’t trade in the marriage we have for anything. It was worth the fight.

There are couples fighting right now as I type this. They are fighting with each other more than they are fighting for each other. They are fighting to stay married. They are fighting to believe there is hope for their marriage. They are fighting to make it through the holidays…to just get through Christmas. For a lot of couples, the finish line for their fight will be December 26, 2011. Then the fight will be over.

More people will file for divorce in January 2012 than every other month combined next year. For many couples right now…they are almost out of fight…they are ready to wave the white flag.

This summer, Trisha and I decided to fight harder. What if we could help more couples that are ready to throw in the towel? What if we could help more couples fight for each other in 2012 than we did in 2011? What if more families stayed together next year than split up? What if we could help husbands and wives that are hurting and wounded find healing and strength to fight? We knew we couldn’t fight alone.

From a business perspective, it makes no sense to launch a new initiative in December. But this isn’t about a business, it is about helping people during the most fragile time of the year. Now. Because NOW is the time to fight, now is the time to launch our new marriage coaching program, CoachUs.

We are honored to partner with with four amazing couples to be able to expand our coaching program for 2012. Each couple brings their own experience; their own passion; their own wisdom to RefineUs. Each coaching couple will also bring the heart of RefineUs to the couples and fight for them.

To kick off this new program, we are giving away some really cool stuff.  Here is what we’re giving away:

1. Amazon Kindle Fire ($199 value)

2. One Free Coaching Session ($50 value)

3. Starbucks Gift Card ($20 value)

How do you win?

First: Leave a comment telling us your name and marital status.

Second: Tweet or Facebook this- Enter to win a FREE Kindle Fire from @justindavis33 and RefineUs.org http://tinyurl.com/coachus

On Saturday, we’ll randomly select 3 winners.

More importantly, you will help us share this new resource with people who need help in their marriage…now. 

To find our more about our CoachUs program, CLICK HERE.

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  • http://twitter.com/JHaskellTweets Jonathan Haskell

    Jonathan Haskell, fortunately married for over 22 years!

  • http://jackalopekid.com jackalopekid

    Adam Smith and married 7 years

  • http://davidsantistevan.com David Santistevan

    Hey Justin, my name is David Santistevan. My wife, Emily, and I have been married for two and half years. Thanks for doing what you do!

  • Amy

    Amy, married 2 years on the 19th of this month :o )

  • Craig Price

    Craig Price, married 10 years.

  • http://twitter.com/countryman4ever Andrew

    Andrew Smith and Single!

  • Bradleyadamson

    Bradley Adamson, married 5 years

  • Askmeaboutautism

    Your story is inspirational. I look forward to reading more. Hoping to learn how to survive after a loss.

    • http://refineus.org/ Justin and Trisha

      Praying for you.

  • http://www.linchpinbloggers.com/ Don McAllister

    Hey Justin, my name is Don McAllister. My wife is Nicole and we have three children, with one on the way and have been married for 7 years. 

  • MattHoppe

    Matt and Jamie Hoppe – married 7 years, divorced/separated 2 years, remarried 2 years ago – God has transformed our marriage and we are forever grateful…love you guys…

    • http://refineus.org/ Justin and Trisha

      So proud of you guys and thankful for all that God has done and is doing in and through you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jeremy-And-Rachel-Lane/1418221586 Jeremy And Rachel Lane

    wow. just stumbled upon this blog. My name is Rachel and my husband and I have been married 6 years. We have two young boys, 3 and 1 years old, and we are new church planters. We just celebrated our church’s one year anniversary and things are getting hard – we’re just burnt out I think. It’s been a learning experience to see how Satan has attacked our marriage through the stress of church planting. Your story was a good eye opener for me to keep our marriage and relationship first. Thank you for sharing your story of hurt and I pray that the Lord would bless your ministry.

    • http://refineus.org/ Justin and Trisha

      Hey Rachel. Thank you so much for commenting. We know all too well how hard church planting can be. We are praying for you and would love to connect with you guys and help however we can! you can email us at refineus@gmail.com.

  • http://twitter.com/david_norman David Norman

    My name is David Norman, my wife and i have been married for almost 11 years (Feb.) and are awaiting the arrival of child number 5.

  • Allen

    Allen Madding, happily married 7yrs.

  • Nicole

    Nicole Lamarre – my husband, Rob, and I have been married 23 years.

  • Pty

    Preston YOunkins. Separated 1 month.

    • http://refineus.org/ Justin and Trisha

      So sorry to hear that Preston. Praying for you. Please let me know if we can serve you in any way.

  • http://justinwoulard.com Justin Woulard

    Justin: married 9 years

  • Accentlawns

    Derrick and kristy Hunley- married

  • Laura McKeane

    Laura McKeane married 6 1/2 years!

  • Mark Eldridge

    Mark Eldridge married to Danita for 25 exciting years

  • Kbarnes518

    Katie – married for almost six years!

  • http://coffeecupministry.us/hillcountrythoughts Paul Dawn

    Was married for 29 years, divorced, not by choice. In 2003, dealing with chemotherapy & radiation, two major surgeries, which had an impact on marriage. Have 3 awesome kids and 3 awesome grandchildren. God brought me through it all.

    • http://refineus.org/ Justin and Trisha

      Wow…thankful God has been with you through everything.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jodi-OMalley/104300037 Jodi O’Malley

    Jodi O’Malley – married almost 4 years

  • Greg MacMillan

    Greg MacMillan
    Married 10 years

  • http://twitter.com/robertrhunt Rob Hunt

    Rob Hunt – married just shy of 14yrs, Oct ’96 – divorced Sep ’10; not what I wanted. 3 kids. God is good ALL the time. Grateful to learn of your ministry and what God is doing thru you guys.

  • Pollymanderson

    Polly Walke seperated for 16 months

  • Jtvb88

    Tom and Jeni, we’ll be married 23 years on Dec. 31st, 2011! Our first year of marriage we endured numerous struggles. We sought Christian counseling and it made ALL the difference. We have been coordinating our church’s Marriage Sponsorship program for 15 years. LIFE TOGETHER is beautiful, definitely worth the
    fight! <3

  • Shelly

    Jay and Shelly, celebrating 25 years on Dec. 20th. Lots of struggles but definitely worth the fight.  

  • Mama_fletch

    My name is Wendy. My husband Chuck and I will celebrate our 25th anniversary in January. God is good.

  • http://www.facebook.com/amable82 Jeremy Rodriguez

    My name is Jeremy and I have been married for 3 1/2 years. I have really enjoyed reading your blog! The insight has been amazing! Thanks so much! 

    • http://refineus.org/ Justin and Trisha

      Thanks so much Jeremy.

  • Tiffany G

    Tiffany and I have been married for 5 1/2 years!  Love you guys! 

  • EJ Gauna

    EJ- married for 6 years

  • Sehalstead

    My name is Sarah and my husband and I are enjoying our first year and a half of marriage. God has blessed us with an amazing friendship – we are so excited for all he has planned for our future!

  • http://twitter.com/PrestonVickrey Preston Vickrey

    Sounds like a great program.

  • Karen Estabrook

    Karen Estabrook married 33 years!

  • Tnmomx3

    Lisa Myers, married for 25 years and counting. I am blessed to be a police officers wife and 25 yrs of marriage in law enforcement is a HUGE accomplishment in this line of work.

  • Dperko

    Deanne Perko, Married to Tom Perko for 10 1/2 year now…and made it this far with all credit due to our relationship with God.  Without it we wouldn’t have made it!  Thanks be to God. 

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