The People That Surround You Are Engraved in You (Guest Post from Micah Davis)

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It’s been a long time since I last wrote a blog post. It was a little over 4 years ago, actually. I was 15, my voice was high and squeaky, I was awkward, and about to face the biggest obstacle of my life up to that point: High School. Oh, how trivial it seems to think about how big and scary I thought High School would be. The movies make…

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The Most Dangerous Word in Marriage

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A few times per year we host a small gathering of couples in Nashville for the RefineUs Weekend Experience. Our last weekend of 2015 was this past weekend. (New Dates for 2016 announced soon!)  During a break, I was talking to one of the husbands and asked him what brought he and his wife to Nashville for the weekend. He said something that resonated with me: “Procrastination. I was busy…

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Celebrating Our 20th Anniversary

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A few days ago, I wrote a post called The One Thing Missing in Most Marriages. If you weren’t able to read it, you can do so by clicking HERE. This post has been shared over 20,000 times on Facebook and read by more than 80,000 people in the last 3 days. It’s a post about gentleness. The way the post has taken off is a reminder to me of…

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The One Thing Missing In Many Marriages

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A few weeks ago, Trish and I were signing books after a speaking engagement and a young guy handed me his book and began to shake my hand. “I’m not married yet,” he said, “but I’m engaged to be married. What is the one avoidable mistake you see couples make that I can learn from?” It was a great question. There was lots of pressure to name one thing. I shared…

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The Power of Another Chance

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This past Sunday was our family’s last Sunday at Cross Point Church in Nashville. Next week we make the move to Indianapolis to start a brand new church called, Hope City Church. I had the honor of speaking on my final Sunday and my message was on the Power of Another Chance. So many people have emailed me, sent me messages on Facebook and Twitter asking where they could find…

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My Best Advice to Every Parent

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Over the past few weeks Trish and I have navigated a new season. Our oldest son Micah graduated from high school. It is such a weird feeling. While you’re never “done” as a parent, part of our role as parents graduated with him. I’ve never felt so sad, excited, nostalgic and proud all at the same time. Micah attended a Christian high school and part of the graduation ceremony included a…

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Why Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work

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When Trish and I started our first church in 2002, we had a lot of faith, very little money and even less people. I put together a business plan of what I thought was our budget and timeline and started meeting with as many people as I could, asking them to support this new church. One morning I sat down with a very successful business man, seeking his advice but…

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30 Days of Hope

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Last summer Trish looked at me with kindness in her heart and compassion in her eyes and said, “You’re not right, you need to go back to counseling.” Sometimes the most loving thing is the truth. So I went to see my counselor. I wasn’t experiencing joy. No matter how many churches we spoke at, no matter how many marriages we helped, no matter how many books we sold, no…

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3 Reasons You Should Never Settle

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Today’s guest post is from Ryan & Amanda Leak. Ryan and Amanda are the Young Adults Directors at Covenant Church in Dallas, TX. They made headlines when their documentary, “The Surprise Wedding“, went viral. After Ryan overheard Amanda say she wanted to get engaged and married on the same day, he spent 2 years secretly planning their wedding. Since then they’ve appeared on Good Morning America, The Today Show, People…

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5 Ways to Love Your Spouse Through Times of Transition and Grief

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  Over  the past couple of weeks Justin has been asking me to write for our blog. It’s a normal request since we’ve been blogging for several years now. And I’ve tried. With computer open, fingers ready, I’ve tried to put words together. Words of vulnerability and the raw parts of life and marriage but the words just haven’t come. My rule for writing is this: if my words aren’t…

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