God’s Not Done With You


When you grow up in church, there is really only one unpardonable sin. The Bible says that it is blasphemy, but in the church world I grew up in, it was adultery. When Trisha and I left ministry in 2005 due to my affair, I had no idea what the future held, but I was sure of one thing: God was done with me.  Over the next three years, God began to…

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Regret and Remorse


On Tuesday, Trisha and I had the opportunity to speak at the Velocity Conference in Atlanta. (Thank you guys so much for your prayers and your words of encouragement.) We spoke to about 800 church leaders. It was an out of body experience. Three years ago, we lived in Indianapolis, not sure if God would open a door to return to ministry, and on Tuesday, spoke to ministry leaders. Only…

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Book Giveaway: Sons of Grace


A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to read and review the book Sons of Grace. Then last week, I sat down with the author Mark Hughes and discussed the book, the concept of grace and how he avoided divorce in his own marriage. You can check out the interview here. The book is a collection of stories of grace, redemption and second chances. It points our heart to…

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Sons of Grace: An Interview


A few weeks ago, I shared with you a review of the book, Sons of Grace. If you love redemption stories, then the book is an awesome book to read. You get a front row seat with ten different men as they encounter Christ and His grace. As a person that loves second chances, this book reminded me of how thankful I am for grace. I had an opportunity to…

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Making Up For It


Almost every day we get emails from people who are experiencing the pain, loss and devastation of an affair. They are wounded and hurt and don’t know what to do or where to turn. They want their life back; their marriage back; their spouse back. Often as we read through the emails and then begin to correspond with the man or woman that sent it there is a belief that…

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Worth The Risk


Three years ago this month we were asked to share our story publicly for the very first time. The new senior pastor at Traders Point Christian Church, Aaron Brocket wanted to kick off the new year with our story. We said no…it’s not worth the risk. Until we prayed about it. Then we said we would share our story just one time and that would be it. We’d be done….

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10 Reminders from The Christmas Story


But when the set time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those under the law, that we might receive adoption to sonship. Galatians 4:4-5   You don’t have the capacity to redeem yourself, but you do have a Redeemer. You don’t have the capacity to change yourself, but you do have a Transformer. You don’t have the ability to…

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The Gift of a Second Chance


Six years ago today, my amazing wife Trisha and I renewed our vows. I have never shared this publicly, but a week after the affair was confessed I received an envelope from a lady in our church. Inside the envelope was a note from Trisha and her wedding ring. I don’t remember the letter word for word, but I remember her overall message: Our first marriage has died. I need…

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The Story Continues to Be Written


On March 5, 2009 this comment was left on our one month old blog: I hope you publish a book or study for couples from this. It would do many of us so much good…. We were living in Indianapolis at the time and were writing a series of blog posts called 8 Things that Destroyed Our Marriage and 8 Things that Restored Our Marriage. I remember reading the comment…

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The Whole Truth


A few weeks ago, my friend Grant and I happened to show up at the same Starbucks at the same time. He had scripts to write for the weekend and I had a message to write. We exchanged small talk then went to work. A few hours later, I was up and ready to leave, and Grant handed me a CD. It was a burned CD with some writing on…

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