As Seen on CNN with Brooke Baldwin

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Last week Trisha was asked to write a guest post for Ed Stetzer and Christianity Today, and speak into the Ashley Madison hack/scandal. Many of you read this article and shared it with others. A producer at CNN read the article and contacted Trish on Monday morning asking if she would be a guest on CNN Newsroom with Brooke Baldwin. So many of you shared this on Facebook, Twitter and…

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Forgiveness and Restoration

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All of us experience the highs and lows of ministry. Regardless if you’re a church planter’s wife or a pastor’s wife of a mega church, the Bride of Christ can often feel like your best friend one minute and your worst enemy the next. It’s easy to get lost. I’m not naïve to the fact that some of you reading this post are contemplating calling it quits. It’s okay for…

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Finding Closure When You Can’t Find Restoration

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Not all relationships can be restored. Not all relationships should be restored. What God has been teaching me (Justin) over the past few weeks is that you can have closure even if you can’t have restoration. A little over four years ago, I found out my dad wasn’t my biological father. A little over four months ago, I received a call that my biological father was dying of cancer. I…

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Simple But Not Easy

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Our first big fight came five months into marriage. We argued over Christmas presents. Gifts that were meant to express our love and appreciation ignited a verbal assault on one another’s heart. The argument ended with three words, “I hate you.” Married life wasn’t going to be as easy as we thought it would be. Looking back now, eighteen years later, I (Trish) can see that we unknowingly equated simple…

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The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

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Most of us want to forgive. We don’t want to hold a grudge. We don’t want to be bitter. We don’t want our lives to be consumed with resentment. But more than wanting to forgive, we don’t want to be hurt again. There is this natural belief that if we forgive, then we are not only saying what that person did was okay, we are being vulnerable enough to allow…

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Beyond Ordinary Forgiveness

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As Justin and I share our story, the affair gets all the attention, but what I have come to realize is that I had a forgiveness issue long before the affair. I had mastered the art of unforgiveness, and felt clueless about what true forgiveness looked like. One of the questions I always get is, “How did you ever forgive Justin? How in the world could you forgive him after what…

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Regret and Remorse

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On Tuesday, Trisha and I had the opportunity to speak at the Velocity Conference in Atlanta. (Thank you guys so much for your prayers and your words of encouragement.) We spoke to about 800 church leaders. It was an out of body experience. Three years ago, we lived in Indianapolis, not sure if God would open a door to return to ministry, and on Tuesday, spoke to ministry leaders. Only…

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Making Up For It

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Almost every day we get emails from people who are experiencing the pain, loss and devastation of an affair. They are wounded and hurt and don’t know what to do or where to turn. They want their life back; their marriage back; their spouse back. Often as we read through the emails and then begin to correspond with the man or woman that sent it there is a belief that…

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Failing to Forgive

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Trisha and I had the honor of speaking on Sunday at Cross Point during our 5 Things Series. Here is a two minute mash-up of the message. If you are interested you can watch the entire message HERE: We talked about the importance of forgiveness and the intentional choice we have to make to forgive. One of the most common questions we receive when we share our story is directed…

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Repost Friday: 8 Things that Destroyed Our Marriage Pt. 6

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One would have to question as we dive into part 6 of 8 how in the world Justin and I made it past #5. What is scary about 1 through 5 is that all of them are or can be very subtle! For me it went something like this: “So what… if Justin prayed for everyone in our small group and their issues but not for me! So what… if…

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