The Labels We Choose

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Every day people search the internet for answers. Medical answers. Parenting tips. Cooking instruction. Marriage help. Every day I can see what people type into their search to find our web site. The top searches in the picture above is pretty much the same each day. It is sobering to think that somewhere, at some moment, in some city, someone typed into Google, “Cheating Pastors” and they were directed to me…

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A Battle You Must Fight

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To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.  E.E. Cummings More than anything else your wife needs you to be you today. More than anything else your husband needs you to be you today. More than anyone else, your friends love you…

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A Reminder of Who You Are

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You are not your past You are not your failures You are not your parents You are not your sister You are not your regrets You are not your sin You are not your weight You are not your divorce You are not your unemployment You are not the choices someone else made for you You are not your brokenness You are not your bitterness You are not your abuse…

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Self Esteem vs. Self Worth

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I (Justin) grew up with a pretty low self-esteem. Like most kids I wanted to feel valued; to be accepted by others; to feel good about myself. I got made fun of one summer when I was wearing shorts, and called “chicken legs”. I didn’t wear shorts for a few years after that. Self-esteem is a fickle thing. It isn’t something that either you have it or you don’t have…it…

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What Might Have Been

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We were backing out of the driveway a few days ago and our 8 year-old son Isaiah said, “It makes me really sad that Nana and Grand-dad got divorced.” (Two years ago my parents got divorced after 36 years of marriage.) Isaiah continued, “Why did they get divorced?” Elijah, our 12 year-old said, “Grand-dad struggled with the same thing daddy used to struggle with: not telling the truth. But now…

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Never Stop Fighting

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To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.  E.E. Cummings More than anything else your wife needs you to be you today. More than anything else your husband needs you to be you today. More than anyone else, your friends love you…

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The Worst Kind of Doubt

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It doesn’t take much to cause me to doubt. I don’t struggle too much with doubting God, I struggle with the worst kind of doubt: self-doubt. God is big enough to handle my doubts. No matter how much I doubt God…he doesn’t change. Self-doubt changes me. I’m not big enough to overcome doubt in myself. Self-doubt is defeating. Self-doubt is paralyzing. Self-doubt causes you to question your dreams; withdrawal from…

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What Could Be-Not What Is

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We are knee deep in basketball at our house these days. All 3 of our boys are playing…each on different nights and times. Life is crazy. It got me thinking of my own basketball career. Coach Williams was my 9th grade basketball coach. He coached me for 1 season…3 months out of my entire life…but those 3 months marked me. He saw something in me that no one saw before….

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PASTOR…You Are Not

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Yesterday, I wrote a post about Who YOU Are. At the end of the day yesterday, I felt like God laid it on my heart to write a post for pastors who may be struggling with their identity. As a pastor, I lived for 10 years with an identity crisis that eventually  lead to my meltdown and moral failure. I realize this post won’t apply to everyone, but it is…

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You Are Not

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You are not your past You are not your failures You are not your parents You are not your sister You are not your regrets You are not your sin You are not your weight You are not your divorce You are not your unemployment You are not the choices someone else made for you You are not your brokenness You are not your bitterness You are not your abuse…

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