IF:Gathering: Finding My Messy Community

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In the fall of 2013, I was invited by one my closest friends Lindsey Nobles, to attend a retreat with 60 other women in Austin, Texas to hear about the vision of a new ministry called IF:GATHERING. I had no idea what to expect or who would be there and to be honest, I really didn’t want to go. I was in the midst of some major changes for me…

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Seasons of Change and Letting Go

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Recently, Justin was sifting through photos and found this gem of our three young boys from one of our favorite vacations to date!   The picture below is just four years later! Countless pounds and inches have been added to our family (unfortunately not all of them by my boys, but that’s for another blog post). I was so taken back at the contrast not only in the physical appearance…

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Just Lead!

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One of our greatest passions for this blog is to equip you with resources to help you continue on the path of refinement in your marriage. Sometimes those resources are geared toward you as a married couple and sometimes for you as an individual. We are excited to introduce you to the book JUST LEAD! written by our friends Jenni Catron and Sherry Surratt. Jenni is executive director at Cross…

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Why Every Wife Should Lead Spiritually

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One of the resources we have created at RefineUs is what we call MentorUs. It is a 52 week program that is emailed out to those that subscribe each week. You can find more info about it HERE. A few weeks ago, Trisha wrote one of the best perspectives I”ve read on spiritual leadership as a female. It was so good and spiritual leadership in marriage is such an abstract…

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The Most Intimidating Place to Lead

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When Trisha and I separated in 2005 due to my affair, one of the first things I realized was how easy it was for me to lead a growing church and how intimidating it was for me to lead my family. Because being a spiritual leader at home was so intimidating, I just didn’t do it. At this point of my life, I had no church to lead and no…

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Marriage and Ministry

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We have gotten some emails and some messages on Facebook and Twitter about the talks we did last week at Velocity. Churchplanters.com is an amazing organization and has made all the content from the main sessions available. What is cool is that it is totally free!  You can watch all the keynote speakers by clicking here. We had 20 minutes between the two of us, to speak in session four….

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He Ain’t Leading and I’m Not Loving It

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This week at Leading and Loving It we’ve had the awesome opportunity to hear from some amazing women at the JustONE Virtual Conference about expectations we as pastors wives place on ourselves. Not only did I learn a lot, I felt challenged to ask myself several hard questions. But one question in particular kept coming to mind: What expectations do I place on myself? The crazy thing is the more…

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The Cost of Control

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We are so excited to be a part of “Velocity 2012″ put on by churchplanters.com. We have been blessed by Shawn and Tricia Lovejoy and their ministry to pastors. We can’t wait to be a a part.  Would love to see you there this February. For more information you can go HERE.  You can get 20% off of your registration by using the code: #velocity12JTDavis. Below is a post we…

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A Secure Leader

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I’m ashamed about how many years I wasted being an insecure leader. I compared my leadership with others. I compared the size of my church with others. I compared my speaking ability with others. The problem with the comparison game is that you always lose…you will never be good enough. Earlier this week, I read THIS BLOG post from my friend Shawn Lovejoy. I love this quote from the post:…

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Learning to Lead Spiritually

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I learned a lot about this community yesterday.  Here is what I learned: A lot of us guys really want to lead our family spiritually, we just have no clue how to do it. I also realized that I am not alone and I’m not crazy. Spiritual leadership is hard. I want to say upfront that I don’t have all the answers. I am very much in process and I…

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