I’m a Horrible Spiritual Leader

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I’ve always wanted to be a leader. From the time I was a kid I admired leadership. I wanted to be a leader at school. I wanted to be a leader on my teams. When I went to college, I learned that God placed a call in my life to be a leader in the Church. All of those leadership roles felt natural. All of those leadership roles were attractive….

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Unmerited Redemption

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Six years ago this week, I was anything but a church leader. I was a church wounder. I was just a few days removed from telling my wife of 10 years that I no longer wanted to be married to her. I admitted to an affair that devastated every person that I loved and that loved me. I was living four miles from my house with a family friend, praying…

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Will You Feel Like a Failure?

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As many of you know, I am a campus pastor at Cross Point Church, in Nashville. I lead our Bellevue Campus. Over the past six weeks our campus has been in a financial campaign. Our goal is to pay off our construction loan on our building. Over  the past 3 weeks, I have been meeting with our small groups, answering questions, casting vision. We had our first of two commitment…

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A Can’t Miss Event for Church Leaders

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One of the things that I love about my friend Casey Graham is that he is passionate about helping others. He is a generous person with a huge heart for pastors, the Church and advancing the Kingdom of God. When I was a church-planter church finances consumed my mind. Even in my role as campus pastor, the financial health of our campus is very important to me. Casey knows this…

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Broken Marriage, Broken Church, New Beginnings

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Last month, Trisha and I were asked by Outreach Magazine to share our thoughts on church planting, marriage, ministry and the pressure that comes with each of those realities. The printed article comes out in the September/October issue of Outreach. Below is an excerpt of the article and a link to read the full, uncut interview. Our passion to share our failures, our brokenness and God’s restoration is at its…

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Exponential 2011…And You

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What if God could use a blog to change the world? What if God could use a community of people that come together each week and talk about life and marriage and messiness and pain and redemption and  healing and grace to change the world? What if God could use RefineUs to help pastors and their wives have healthy and growing marriages? What if God could use you to change…

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Mission Impossible, Made Possible

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You can ask my family I don’t do well with asking for ANYTHING. So when Justin and I started talking about the possibility of meeting with some amazing leaders at Exponential I knew at some point money would have to be discussed. So we dreamed about what future plans God may have for RefineUs… We prayed that God would give us wisdom… We became teary-eyed over the thought that someone…

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The Opposite of Fear

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I’ve always thought that the opposite of fear was courage. Growing up, every time I would express fear, my dad would tell me to be brave. When my kids tell me they are scared, I remind them that courage isn’t not being fearful; courage is overcoming fear. So many sermons that I’ve given over fifteen years have had to do with overcoming fear with courageous faith. Obviously, courage is very…

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8.15.10

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This week Trisha launched a series of posts on forgiveness and restoration. What has been obvious is that many of us struggle with forgiveness. Also true is that most of us desire restoration. We’ve been asked to each write a guest post on Jenni Clayville’s blog on Monday, for Affair Week. As you can imagine, the heaviness of that topic, coupled with the intensity of this weeks’ posts, we didn’t…

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