Why Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work

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When Trish and I started our first church in 2002, we had a lot of faith, very little money and even less people. I put together a business plan of what I thought was our budget and timeline and started meeting with as many people as I could, asking them to support this new church. One morning I sat down with a very successful business man, seeking his advice but…

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3 Reasons You Should Never Settle

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Today’s guest post is from Ryan & Amanda Leak. Ryan and Amanda are the Young Adults Directors at Covenant Church in Dallas, TX. They made headlines when their documentary, “The Surprise Wedding“, went viral. After Ryan overheard Amanda say she wanted to get engaged and married on the same day, he spent 2 years secretly planning their wedding. Since then they’ve appeared on Good Morning America, The Today Show, People…

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5 Ways to Love Your Spouse Through Times of Transition and Grief

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  Over  the past couple of weeks Justin has been asking me to write for our blog. It’s a normal request since we’ve been blogging for several years now. And I’ve tried. With computer open, fingers ready, I’ve tried to put words together. Words of vulnerability and the raw parts of life and marriage but the words just haven’t come. My rule for writing is this: if my words aren’t…

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“I Do” Feels Like “I’m Done”

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No one gets married expecting failure. No bride stands in a chapel full of family and friends, imagining how much she will despise her spouse in ten years. No groom gazes into the eyes of his bride, daydreaming of one day glaring at her across the courtroom as they divide their assets. We don’t aim for failed marriages, but the reality is that more than half of marriages in the…

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The Biggest Hurdle to a Better Marriage

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Money is the biggest hurdle to couples investing in their marriage.  When marriages are in trouble most of the time finances are too. That was the case for us when our marriage imploded. Every week we receive emails from people sharing with us how broken their marriage is. When we share resource options or invite them to join us for the RefineUs Weekend here in Nashville, the most common hinderance…

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Feature Friday: The Unveiled Wife

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This week we’ve shared a big announcement, as well as, a big disappointment. With so much sharing going on we thought this would be a great time to announce one more thing… FEATURE FRIDAY! As the ministry of RefineUs has grown over the past six years, it has allowed us to meet amazing people doing amazing things to share the love of Christ. From non-profit organizations to authors writing life-changing…

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Four Choices That Will Improve Any Marriage

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There are certain issues in your marriage that can’t be changed today. No matter how hard you try, some marriage improvements take time.  But these four choices we’re sharing with you today will instantly improve your marriage. Trisha and I have personally seen these four things change our marriage for the good and the absence of these four things change our marriage for the bad. Choosing all four is possible….

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Why Not Now?

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Lasting change in our marriage doesn’t come by trying to “fix” our marriage. Our marriage changes as we allow God to transform our heart, personally. Our passion is to provide you with resources that don’t just modify your marriage for a few days or weeks, but actually equip you to see transformation take place.  We’ve created 3 bundles to give you DONE for you resources to help you be intentional…

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The Secret Sauce to a Great Marriage

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Everyone wants the secret formula to a great marriage. We all desire to thrive in the relationship that we value most. But the reality is desire isn’t enough. If desire was what it took to have an amazing marriage, we’d all have the marriage of our dreams. Our choices have to be greater than our intentions. The problem for many of us is that we only respond when the pain…

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When The Ending Isn’t Happy

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Each week we receive emails from men and women that read our blog faithfully. They too had a vision for their marriage. They dreamed of happily ever after. Some have kids. Some have a house with a white picket fence. All of them had the desire for a life that is drastically different than what they are living. Their questions are similar: “What do I do when my husband doesn’t…

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