It’s Not Rocket Science

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When I got married, I just assumed that love would compensate for a lot. I loved Trish, so I could I could put our marriage on autopilot and be okay. We love each other so date nights can be optional We love each other so working 80 hours a week will be ok We love each other so she knows how sorry I am for losing my temper We love…

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4 Reasons Marriages Struggle

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We have the opportunity to travel and speak a lot about marriage. Most of our content doesn’t come from information we’ve read in books or gained in a classroom. The majority of it has been learned through failure and experience. The thing we’ve noticed as we’ve spoke to thousands of couples, is that none of us are alone. There have been times, sometimes seasons of our marriage that it has…

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11 Signs You’re Settling for an Ordinary Marriage

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We talk a lot about having an ordinary marriage. None of us signed up for ordinary. We learn to settle for it over time. Here are a few indicators that you could be in an ordinary marriage. 1. You think that the absence of conflict equals the presence of intimacy. 2. You find yourself keeping certain details of conversations or events from your spouse. 3. You say you forgive but…

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What’s Your Biggest Regret?

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Researchers have found that the most common human emotion is love. That isn’t all that surprising. But what might be surprising is the second most common human emotion is regret. “I wish I would have gotten that job.” “I wish I’d spoken up in that meeting.” “I wish I’d studied harder for that test.” “I wish” is the mantra of regret. Regret has a unique sting to it. All pain…

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19 and Counting

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Happy anniversary to the most amazing woman I’ve ever known.  Your grace leads me to Jesus. Your love gives me strength. Your loyalty is inspiring. Your laugh keeps me smiling. Your eyes make me feel known. I love you more today, Trisha than I did 19 years ago. Happy anniversary.

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3 Keys to an Extraordinary Marriage

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Your marriage is perfectly positioned to be the marriage God has in mind. Do you believe that? No matter your age, stage of life or state of marriage, you are only a few choices away from an extraordinary marriage.  For those that know our story, you know that God brought our marriage back from the brink of death. Over the past five years we’ve had the honor of speaking into thousands…

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Your Husband’s Greatest Fear

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There is a universal fear that every husband has. This fear keeps us up at night and wakes us up in the morning. It isn’t talked about much because we don’t like admitting we’re afraid. Being afraid, we believe, makes us less of a man. Most of us had childhood fears. There is something endearing about a little boy that is scared of the dark. But as we get older,…

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5 Barriers to Oneness In Marriage

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Today, we’re honored to have a guest post from our friend, Scott Kedersha. Scott is the Director of Premarital Ministry at Watermark Community Church in Dallas, Texas, where he leads a premarried ministry called Merge. Merge is designed to give engaged and seriously dating couples a unique opportunity to learn, seek biblical wisdom, and receive Christ-centered counsel about marriage in a safe, fun, challenging and authentic environment.    The wedding…

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Get ONE MONTH of MentorUs FREE

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We’ve never done this before. We’re giving away an entire month of our 12-month marriage course, MentorUs. One of the things we’ve learned about our marriage is that we don’t drift into awesome…we drift into average.  But we don’t have to settle for mediocre in the relationship that matters most. You don’t have to either. We believe every marriage can be awesome. Over 900 couples have gone through this 12…

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3 Things I’d Say to You On Your Wedding Day

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I had the honor of performing a wedding on Saturday. I love being able to share in a couple’s special day. As I was giving the message during the ceremony, I spoke about 3 things that have helped Trisha and I journey together and love each other more today than we did the day we got married. We obviously haven’t always gotten these right, but they are the foundation to…

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