IF:Gathering: Finding My Messy Community

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In the fall of 2013, I was invited by one my closest friends Lindsey Nobles, to attend a retreat with 60 other women in Austin, Texas to hear about the vision of a new ministry called IF:GATHERING. I had no idea what to expect or who would be there and to be honest, I really didn’t want to go. I was in the midst of some major changes for me…

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Help Us Help Marriages

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It’s always been hard for me to ask for help but I’m going to right now…  When Trish and I made the decision to start RefineUs Ministries our greatest desire was to help people. We wanted to leverage our story and experience to help others have an extraordinary marriage.  Last year, we felt God leading us to launch this ministry full time. Since then we’ve been traveling and speaking and…

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How to Have a Healthy Marriage AND Ministry

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When Justin and I got married and entered into ministry we were both wildly passionate about each other and ministry. Talking, dreaming and planning together always came natural to us but figuring out how Iwould be involved in those dreams didn’t come so easily. Almost twenty years later I’m still as passionate about my husband and ministry but it took me redefining what ministry truly means to keep my passion alive….

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Social Media 101

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Social media is one of those rare events in which we get to say “remember when that was invented.” It’s a phenomenon much like the invention of the telephone or the Internet, in which, its very creation has forever changed human behavior. The drawback to being one of the first to take part in this type of marvel is the lack of rules of engagement. I (Trisha) love to read. I love…

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Four Fears of the Workaholic

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A few weeks ago Trish and I were getting ready to go to bed and the tension in our room was thick. There had been no argument. There was no disagreement. But there was distance. Something was wrong. You could feel it. As we were laying there, I finally just said it, “What is the deal? What is wrong?” Silence. “Trish, please tell me.” “Okay. You are a workaholic. You…

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Lavishly Loved

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Have you ever found yourself rehearsing the outcome to a certain situation over and over again in your mind? Hoping with every rehearsal you will get a little bit closer to feeling prepared for whatever happens. But then the moment arrives and the one outcome you never thought to rehearse plays out. This was my Sunday. On Monday, Justin wrote about our “leap of faith”. This leap of faith would…

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A Step of Faith

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Someone files for divorce in the United States every 20 seconds. 60% of all divorces are filed by people age 25-39. Of the people that stay married, most don’t have the marriage they dreamed they would have when they said, “I do.” What if we could change that? That is the question that God continues to ask Trisha and me.  Are we willing to trust God that much?  When we…

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God’s Amazing Goodness

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Eleven years ago, my friend Pete and I went to Starbucks just a few miles down the road from our office. We were on staff at a church together and were discouraged by some of the things we were experiencing in ministry. We asked questions of each other and of God about our future. Should we get out of ministry all together? Should we look for other jobs? As we…

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What About You?

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This is a guest post from our son Elijah. He is 13 years old and wants to change the world. After reading this, you may want to join him. This summer I came to two conclusions: God is crazy, and I’m crazy as well. I already knew God was kinda crazy but he really sealed the deal with this one. I was at a summer camp with my old church…

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Back to Africa

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Last year, our son Elijah and I (Justin) had the opportunity to go to Nairobi, Kenya on a mission trip with Cross Point. Elijah was by far the youngest person on the trip, so I was a little nervous as to how it would go. He was amazing…and so was God. God showed up over and over again and used Elijah in ways that blew my mind. He taught, he…

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