God’s Not Done With You

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When you grow up in church, there is really only one unpardonable sin. The Bible says that it is blasphemy, but in the church world I grew up in, it was adultery. When Trisha and I left ministry in 2005 due to my affair, I had no idea what the future held, but I was sure of one thing: God was done with me.  Over the next three years, God began to…

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The Most Intimidating Place to Lead

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When Trisha and I separated in 2005 due to my affair, one of the first things I realized was how easy it was for me to lead a growing church and how intimidating it was for me to lead my family. Because being a spiritual leader at home was so intimidating, I just didn’t do it. At this point of my life, I had no church to lead and no…

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Marriage and Ministry

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We have gotten some emails and some messages on Facebook and Twitter about the talks we did last week at Velocity. Churchplanters.com is an amazing organization and has made all the content from the main sessions available. What is cool is that it is totally free!  You can watch all the keynote speakers by clicking here. We had 20 minutes between the two of us, to speak in session four….

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Marriage, Ministry, Mistresses and Jesus

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I’ve (Trisha) been trying to write this post for the past week. When I try to write, my thoughts are so deep and heavy I’m afraid to put words to them. I’m searching for words to make my thoughts feel lighter and safe but I can’t. Instead I’m going for honest and raw and praying somehow Jesus will land them softly into your heart. I pray you will read the…

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The Cost of Control

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We are so excited to be a part of “Velocity 2012″ put on by churchplanters.com. We have been blessed by Shawn and Tricia Lovejoy and their ministry to pastors. We can’t wait to be a a part.  Would love to see you there this February. For more information you can go HERE.  You can get 20% off of your registration by using the code: #velocity12JTDavis. Below is a post we…

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A Secure Leader

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I’m ashamed about how many years I wasted being an insecure leader. I compared my leadership with others. I compared the size of my church with others. I compared my speaking ability with others. The problem with the comparison game is that you always lose…you will never be good enough. Earlier this week, I read THIS BLOG post from my friend Shawn Lovejoy. I love this quote from the post:…

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The Difference Between Wanting and Choosing

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Over the past few days, Trisha and I have shared two posts encouraging spouses to pursue one another. There is a weird dynamic that takes place in most marriages: most drift to a place of ordinary. We don’t intend to go there; we don’t set out to stop pursuing; it just kinda happens. In my post, I gave three ways that husbands could pursue their wives. Trish, shared three ways…

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Adventure Compassion Style

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If Monday sent me crashing into an iceberg then Tuesday took me on a WILD adventure. This adventure started with Zumba, involved my little iPhone and ended on the back of a little red pick-up truck. It was one of the craziest expeditions of my life! Those who know me know I have a little bit of an obsession with Zumba. I love to dance and there’s nothing better than…

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Redeeming The Little Things

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The thing that I love about God is that He is in the details. Well, that is one of the things I love about Him. Last year, Trisha wrote a post about finally taking a packet, and the difference that has made in her life and in our family’s life. I remember early on in our marriage, we took some students to a concert and she raised her hand to…

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Unmerited Redemption

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Six years ago this week, I was anything but a church leader. I was a church wounder. I was just a few days removed from telling my wife of 10 years that I no longer wanted to be married to her. I admitted to an affair that devastated every person that I loved and that loved me. I was living four miles from my house with a family friend, praying…

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