Celebrating Our 20th Anniversary

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A few days ago, I wrote a post called The One Thing Missing in Most Marriages. If you weren’t able to read it, you can do so by clicking HERE. This post has been shared over 20,000 times on Facebook and read by more than 80,000 people in the last 3 days. It’s a post about gentleness. The way the post has taken off is a reminder to me of…

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The One Thing You Can’t Get Back

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Trish and I are preparing for our son Micah’s high school graduation party tonight.  We are scanning pictures and putting together an embarrassing slide show. It is going to be awesome. As I look at the pictures from the last 18 years, I’m reminded of the one thing I can’t get back: TIME. Time slows down for no one. I don’t wish I could go back in time, I wish…

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The Biggest Hurdle to a Better Marriage

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Money is the biggest hurdle to couples investing in their marriage.  When marriages are in trouble most of the time finances are too. That was the case for us when our marriage imploded. Every week we receive emails from people sharing with us how broken their marriage is. When we share resource options or invite them to join us for the RefineUs Weekend here in Nashville, the most common hinderance…

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A Birthday Celebration

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I hope you’ve had a great week and are preparing for a relaxing weekend. I’m especially excited about today because it’s my birthday. I’m 41 years-old today. That hurts just typing it. Trish and I are going to go shopping today, then we’re having a birthday dinner with close friends tonight at P.F. Chang’s. (If you’ve read our book, you know why that place means so much to us.) It’s…

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Desire Isn’t Our Problem

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In December 2013, I set a goal to lose 40 pounds in 2014. (It was the third year in a row that I had set this goal, but don’t judge me.) My goal seemed well thought out. It was measurable, it was attainable, and it had a timetable. What I didn’t have was a plan. I didn’t have a workout strategy or gym schedule. I didn’t have someone lined up…

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What’s Your Biggest Regret?

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Researchers have found that the most common human emotion is love. That isn’t all that surprising. But what might be surprising is the second most common human emotion is regret. “I wish I would have gotten that job.” “I wish I’d spoken up in that meeting.” “I wish I’d studied harder for that test.” “I wish” is the mantra of regret. Regret has a unique sting to it. All pain…

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From Destroying Our Marriage to Restoring Yours

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The blog post below launched our blog five years ago. Our book didn’t exist. Our ministry didn’t exist. We’d shared our story at one church. This blog post was an overflow of our heart, our story, our lives. How does a husband of 10 years, a father of 3 awesome boys and a pastor of a young and growing church choose to walk in one Sunday afternoon and tell his…

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