The Silence of Saturday

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Silence with God is a good thing. It is often in our silence that God speaks the loudest. We are even commanded in Scripture to “be still and know that He is God.” Our silence helps us feel God’s presence. Silence from God is completely different. Silence from God is scary. Silence from God is disappointing. God’s silence causes us to doubt His presence. We often believe God’s presence is…

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IF:Gathering: Finding My Messy Community

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In the fall of 2013, I was invited by one my closest friends Lindsey Nobles, to attend a retreat with 60 other women in Austin, Texas to hear about the vision of a new ministry called IF:GATHERING. I had no idea what to expect or who would be there and to be honest, I really didn’t want to go. I was in the midst of some major changes for me…

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Why You Shouldn’t Say, “I’m Sorry”

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For the first 10 years of our marriage I (Justin) avoided conflict at all costs. I didn’t like arguing. I usually lost most arguments and viewed any disagreement as failure as a husband. I equated avoided conflict as resolved conflict. I was always first to say, “I’m sorry.” Sometimes I didn’t even know what I was sorry for. Other times, I wasn’t even sorry at all, I just wanted the…

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The End Of Yourself

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You had a dream. You had a vision. You had a purpose. You had a marriage. You had a relationship with your kids. Today…you’re tired. You’ve lost your belief that you can be the mom you wanted to be. You’ve lost hope you can be the husband she needs you to be. You’ve given up on the dream you thought God birthed in you. You feel like a failure every…

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One Thing God Can’t Do

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It feels weird saying out loud that God can’t do something. That kinda goes against what I was brought up to believe about God. God creates things from nothing. God parts Red Seas God heals the sick. God brings dead things back to life. God can do anything…right? Anything is possible with God. God is all-powerful. Those things are true…but there are limitations on God’s power. There are several things…

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2 Mistakes Couples Make Trying to Improve Their Marriage

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If you’ve been married longer than two hours, you know that marriage isn’t always easy. When Trish and I got married, we had this core belief: “We love each other; we love God, so we’ll have a great marriage.” Man, I wish it was that easy. The quality of our marriage isn’t a reflection of our intentions, it’s a collection of our choices. Great intentions have never improved our marriage….

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3 Keys to Help Your Marriage Thrive in 2014

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It’s been a couple of months since I (Trisha) have allowed my fingers to freely flow across my keyboard. Ironically this time last year, my fingers were almost callused as Justin and I wrote an insane amount of guest posts for the release of our first book, Beyond Ordinary. It’s crazy how much life has been sandwiched between these two moments in time and even crazier that it all began…

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The One Thing Failure Can’t Do

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I’ve feared failure all of my life. I’ve feared failing as a student, as an athlete, as a husband, as a father and as a pastor. What I’ve learned as I’ve lived with fear of failure for over 30 years…fearing failure doesn’t prevent me from failing. I’ve failed…big time. I’ve failed the people I love most because of poor choices and hidden sins. I can never do enough to take…

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You Can’t Go Back, But You Can Move Forward

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A few years ago, I was struggling to move past my past. I was haunted by the mistakes I’d made. I was reminded of the people I hurt and wounded with my poor choices. I knew God forgave me; I knew my wife forgave me;  but couldn’t find the grace to forgive myself. I remember sitting in Starbucks with a friend and he asked me a question that changed everything….

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Protect Your Rep

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I lived the majority of my life trying to build and protect my reputation. In that process, I didn’t do the hard work of character development. Reputation and character are two different things. Reputation is what others believe to be true about you. Character is who you really are. When you’re driven by reputation, then you begin to equate what you project to others as your character. We guard our…

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