A HUGE Announcement From Justin and Trish

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We’ve been anticipating sharing some exciting news with you for a few weeks and this week are able to do that. Over the past five years, this community has shaped us and our faith in ways we can’t even describe. We are so very thankful for you. Stepping out in faith is never easy, but it’s as we take faith steps we experience God’s presence the most. We want to inspire…

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Trust vs. Fear

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Our story would lend one to think that I have a right to live in constant fear that Justin will have another affair. Or that Justin should fear that one day I would eventually leave him because of his choices. This type of fearful thinking is so destructive. There is no doubt that trust had to be re-earned…but at some point for our relationship to move forward, trust had to…

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The Difference Between Forgiveness and Trust

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Most of us want to forgive. We don’t want to hold a grudge. We don’t want to be bitter. We don’t want our lives to be consumed with resentment. But more than wanting to forgive, we don’t want to be hurt again. There is this natural belief that if we forgive, then we are not only saying what that person did was okay, we are being vulnerable enough to allow…

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Our Pre-Disposition to Lie

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I (Justin) haven’t been able to turn on the TV the last few days without seeing blanket coverage of the General Petreaus affair story. It has been all over the news and the internet. Yesterday, during lunch I sat in a restaurant and programming was interrupted so the President could have a press conference to talk about his knowledge of the situation. It is big news. What is interesting is…

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The Difference Between Trust and Fear

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Our story would lend one to think that I have a right to live in constant fear that Justin will have another affair. Or that Justin should fear that one day I would eventually leave him because of his choices. This type of fearful thinking is so destructive. There is no doubt that trust had to be re-earned…but at some point for our relationship to move forward, trust had to…

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Not Proving It

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We spent most of the first ten years of our marriage walking on eggshells. Careful not to say something that would start an argument. Trying to make sure I jumped through the right hoops so that I could prove what a good husband I was. Trisha nervous about spending money or burning dinner or the house not being clean enough. Our goal was conflict avoidance. We are such different people…

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Transitions: Brian and Jenni Clayville

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There are certain encounters and friendships that you just know are God-ordained. Our relationship with Brian and Jenni Clayville is that type of friendship. Trisha and I met Brian and Jenni at the Exponential Conference almost two years ago. Since then, God has grown our friendship and allowed Brian and Jenni to encourage our heart and speak life into our vision for RefineUs. We are honored to have them as…

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Transitions: Alece Ronzino

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Are you one of those people that at an early age just knew what you wanted to do with your life? Our guest blogger today is one of those people. Alece at the tender age of 19 got a one-way ticket to Africa and never looked back. Over the next decade she would fall in love with a South African man, get married and together build an amazing ministry that…

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Transitions: Crystal Renaud

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It is amazing how God has used social media to introduce us to friends with a common mission and passion. Trisha and I met Crystal through Twitter and blogging. It didn’t take long to realize how passionate each of us were about helping people find freedom and hope. It is an honor to have Crystal share with us today about a very significant transition that she has made in her…

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Transitions: A Different Perspective

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Two nights ago, our son Micah asked us something he’d never asked before. He asked if he could write a post for our blog. We were honored. He knew that we were writing about transitions this week and felt like God laid something on his heart to say. When he showed it to us, we were blown away with not only how good it is, but also, how we struggle…

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