4 Questions that Lead to Freedom

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Why do we hide so easily? Fear of rejection. Fear of judgment. Fear of the consequences of honesty. Fear of losing a relationship. No decision made in fear is ever healthy. I think it was Andy Stanley that said, “We fear the consequences of confession because we have yet to realize the consequences of concealment.” I spent three years in an “accountability “ relationship in which I wasn’t transparent. I…

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IF:Gathering: Finding My Messy Community

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In the fall of 2013, I was invited by one my closest friends Lindsey Nobles, to attend a retreat with 60 other women in Austin, Texas to hear about the vision of a new ministry called IF:GATHERING. I had no idea what to expect or who would be there and to be honest, I really didn’t want to go. I was in the midst of some major changes for me…

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The Whole Truth

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I know what it’s like to be Ryan Braun. He is the Major League Baseball player that tested positive for performance enhancing drugs, got off on a technicality, then stood before the press and swore on his life he didn’t use them. He just got suspended for using performance enhancing drugs. I know what it’s like to be Anthony Weiner. He is the New York City mayoral candidate that was…

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Four Fears of the Workaholic

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A few weeks ago Trish and I were getting ready to go to bed and the tension in our room was thick. There had been no argument. There was no disagreement. But there was distance. Something was wrong. You could feel it. As we were laying there, I finally just said it, “What is the deal? What is wrong?” Silence. “Trish, please tell me.” “Okay. You are a workaholic. You…

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Break Free From Your Need to Be Perfect

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I was talking to a friend the other day about some issues he was having in a relationship. Tension was high. Frustration was thick. Expectations were not being met. He asked my advice. I gave it. I said, “You are a perfectionist. You have to be perfect in every aspect of your life and you are expecting this person (that you have problems with) to be perfect. You want the relationship…

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Our Pre-Disposition to Lie

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I (Justin) haven’t been able to turn on the TV the last few days without seeing blanket coverage of the General Petreaus affair story. It has been all over the news and the internet. Yesterday, during lunch I sat in a restaurant and programming was interrupted so the President could have a press conference to talk about his knowledge of the situation. It is big news. What is interesting is…

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A Few Months from Now

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Sin’s greatest strength is that it is relentless. It wears you down. It messes with your mind. It always over promises and under delivers. Sin doesn’t usually require you to make huge compromises or take giant leaps away from God…it lures you into tiny, unnoticeable, justifiable decisions.  It doesn’t always come against you with blatant lies; it just distorts and twists the truth. It hides, it compromises, it shades, and it bends….

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Strip Me of My Titles

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It was official yesterday…Lance Armstrong is no longer a winner of any Tour de France races. The president of the International Cycling Union said this about this “historic” day in cycling. “Lance Armstrong has no place in cycling, and he deserves to be forgotten in cycling.” The evidence is in. Lance Armstrong cheated. As he was winning races and winning our hearts he was doing it illegally. He was using…

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What Every Husband Needs from His Wife (That He Usually Gets at Work)

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On Monday we got really honest about why guys struggle with being successful at their jobs, but not feeling successful at home. We heard from some women that said that this wasn’t a gender thing, that women feel that way too. As a guy writing the post, I didn’t want to speak for anyone other than guys. The bottom line is that we don’t often have the success at home…

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Loneliness is a Choice; It’s Not Your Reality

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I’ve gone through different seasons of loneliness throughout my life. I’m sure you have too. There are times that we can feel lonely, even in a room full of people. As I look through out Scripture, one of God’s greatest desires is that we not be alone. In fact, God’s presence is one of the major themes of the entire Bible: I AM with you.  Abraham-I am with you. Isaac-I…

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