Comments for Refine Us http://refineus.org Restoring Hope | Renewing Relationships Tue, 22 May 2012 20:57:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Suzie G http://refineus.org/2012/05/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go/comment-page-1/#comment-15015 Suzie G Tue, 22 May 2012 20:57:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6358#comment-15015 Great Thrisa! So true & speaks to something I'm working through. Not regarding marriage at this time, but timely in ur post! Suzie Great Thrisa! So true & speaks to something I’m working through. Not regarding marriage at this time, but timely in ur post!

Suzie

]]> Comment on You Can’t Afford Not To by JenniferBaierl http://refineus.org/2012/05/you-cant-afford-not-to/comment-page-1/#comment-15013 JenniferBaierl Mon, 21 May 2012 17:17:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6334#comment-15013 I can't agree with you guys more. We used every excuse under the sun and after some poor counseling early in our marriage, we avoided it at all costs. After my separation from my family, we had to seek someone that could not only help my husband & myself, but our teenager who had to be the "adult" in our family. True godly counsel can be an extension of your family. I would like to say our counselor will be in our lives for a season, but I will be sad when that day comes. His influence on my marriage & influence has been beyond anything other than God's own. I can’t agree with you guys more. We used every excuse under the sun and after some poor counseling early in our marriage, we avoided it at all costs. After my separation from my family, we had to seek someone that could not only help my husband & myself, but our teenager who had to be the “adult” in our family. True godly counsel can be an extension of your family. I would like to say our counselor will be in our lives for a season, but I will be sad when that day comes. His influence on my marriage & influence has been beyond anything other than God’s own.

]]> Comment on You Can’t Afford Not To by A Letter To My Friend Who’s Husband Is Cheating « Passionate Christian Marriage http://refineus.org/2012/05/you-cant-afford-not-to/comment-page-1/#comment-15012 A Letter To My Friend Who’s Husband Is Cheating « Passionate Christian Marriage Mon, 21 May 2012 16:16:49 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6334#comment-15012 [...] You Can’t Afford Not To  (Refine Us about marriage counseling) Share this:TwitterFacebookLike this:LikeBe the first to like this post. [...] [...] You Can’t Afford Not To  (Refine Us about marriage counseling) Share this:TwitterFacebookLike this:LikeBe the first to like this post. [...]

]]> Comment on You Can’t Afford Not To by TCAvey http://refineus.org/2012/05/you-cant-afford-not-to/comment-page-1/#comment-15011 TCAvey Mon, 21 May 2012 12:07:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6334#comment-15011 I believe counseling can be needed, there are times we need someone to listen and not judge, times we need a new perspective. That being said, Christians must ensure they have prayed about it and are getting counseling from someone God recommends.  I believe counseling can be needed, there are times we need someone to listen and not judge, times we need a new perspective. That being said, Christians must ensure they have prayed about it and are getting counseling from someone God recommends. 

]]> Comment on Friday Repost: 8 Things that Restored Our Marriage Part 1 by jp1000 http://refineus.org/2012/05/friday-repost-8things-restored-1/comment-page-1/#comment-15010 jp1000 Fri, 18 May 2012 21:06:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6295#comment-15010 Going through this now. Thank you for your insight. Going through this now. Thank you for your insight.

]]> Comment on Friday Repost: 8 Things that Restored Our Marriage Part 1 by Take a Look: Restore, 10 Questions, Betrayal - Power of the Home - Power of the Home http://refineus.org/2012/05/friday-repost-8things-restored-1/comment-page-1/#comment-15009 Take a Look: Restore, 10 Questions, Betrayal - Power of the Home - Power of the Home Fri, 18 May 2012 14:10:50 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6295#comment-15009 [...] - 8 Things that Restored Our Marriage (Part 1) :: a great post from the Refine Us blog where Justin and Trisha Davis focus on restoring hope [...] [...] - 8 Things that Restored Our Marriage (Part 1) :: a great post from the Refine Us blog where Justin and Trisha Davis focus on restoring hope [...]

]]> Comment on Mistakes That Hold You Back Part 4 by Eileen http://refineus.org/2012/05/hold-you-back-part-4/comment-page-1/#comment-15008 Eileen Fri, 18 May 2012 11:36:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6318#comment-15008 This is one area where I feel there is still healing to be done.  In my first marriage, (and my first partner) my view of sex became very warped.  My ex-husband was addicted to porn and made me out to be the weird one for thinking his addiction was abnormal.  Sex was sex.  There was nothing intimate about it.  My husband now has a healthy view of it and I've had to learn (and still am learning) that in a healthy relationship the goal is intimacy.  Thanks for your wise words.  This is one area where I feel there is still healing to be done.  In my first marriage, (and my first partner) my view of sex became very warped.  My ex-husband was addicted to porn and made me out to be the weird one for thinking his addiction was abnormal.  Sex was sex.  There was nothing intimate about it.  My husband now has a healthy view of it and I’ve had to learn (and still am learning) that in a healthy relationship the goal is intimacy.  Thanks for your wise words. 

]]> Comment on Mistakes That Hold You Back Part 4 by Mrssyvo http://refineus.org/2012/05/hold-you-back-part-4/comment-page-1/#comment-15007 Mrssyvo Thu, 17 May 2012 21:28:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6318#comment-15007 Thank you for an incredible, transperent article.  I am just now learning after 12 years of marriage, what true intimancy with my husband is.  My childhood was one filled with sexual, physical and emotional abuse, and it was only this past year that I finally decided to allow God to heal me.  I am now finding out what God has wanted for me to experience with my husband, and every night is an incredible adventure! Thank you for an incredible, transperent article.  I am just now learning after 12 years of marriage, what true intimancy with my husband is.  My childhood was one filled with sexual, physical and emotional abuse, and it was only this past year that I finally decided to allow God to heal me.  I am now finding out what God has wanted for me to experience with my husband, and every night is an incredible adventure!

]]> Comment on Mistakes That Hold You Back Part 4 by Lisa http://refineus.org/2012/05/hold-you-back-part-4/comment-page-1/#comment-15006 Lisa Thu, 17 May 2012 20:41:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6318#comment-15006 Like most people, when we first married my husband and I had lots of our own baggage and no clue as to what to do with it. Neither of us had an understanding of what true intimacy was. Both of us put ourselves first. Our marriage (and family) has suffered greatly for it.  Fortunately we serve a Great and Mighty God. One who sees beyond what we can see. He has used his word and many people like you guys to help us understand the true 'mystery' of marriage.  I am so thankful for your ministry and your honesty. Thank you Trisha for putting it all out there! So many people struggle and need to know they are not the only one - and there is hope.  My husband and I are finding true intimacy is one of the best blessings God has offered us and we are kicking ourselves for missing out all those years. Okay, not really. Although we do wish someone had helped us figure these things out earlier in our marriage, we are rejoicing we have a second chance. We are enjoying learning to love each other all over again. Like most people, when we first married my husband and I had lots of our own baggage and no clue as to what to do with it. Neither of us had an understanding of what true intimacy was. Both of us put ourselves first. Our marriage (and family) has suffered greatly for it. 

Fortunately we serve a Great and Mighty God. One who sees beyond what we can see. He has used his word and many people like you guys to help us understand the true ‘mystery’ of marriage. 

I am so thankful for your ministry and your honesty. Thank you Trisha for putting it all out there! So many people struggle and need to know they are not the only one – and there is hope. 

My husband and I are finding true intimacy is one of the best blessings God has offered us and we are kicking ourselves for missing out all those years. Okay, not really. Although we do wish someone had helped us figure these things out earlier in our marriage, we are rejoicing we have a second chance. We are enjoying learning to love each other all over again.

]]> Comment on Mistakes that Hold You Back Part 3 by Angie http://refineus.org/2012/05/hold-you-back-part-3/comment-page-1/#comment-15005 Angie Thu, 17 May 2012 04:00:00 +0000 http://refineus.org/?p=6310#comment-15005 Don't like it but avoiding it doesn't make it go away. When conflict leads to resolution, it's amazing! Don’t like it but avoiding it doesn’t make it go away. When conflict leads to resolution, it’s amazing!

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