I Know Where You Are

There is something reassuring about someone that’s been where you are. I remember being at my lowest low and hearing a friend say, “I know exactly how you feel.” Those words were like life to me. I felt God prompting me to say to someone today, “I know where you are, and I know how you feel.”

Sometimes where you are feels lonely. Like you are the only one that has ever been there before:

-You are the only one that’s lied to his wife.

-You are the only one that’s let his kids down.

-You are the only one that’s disappointed those he loves.

-You are the only one that’s gotten fired from their job.

-You are the only one that has hidden sin.

-You are the only one that feels beyond the reach of grace.

Sometimes where you are feels so uncertain:

-You are uncertain how you are going to pay the bills.

-You are uncertain if she will ever forgive you.

-You are uncertain how Christmas will feel like Christmas given the state of your marriage.

-You are uncertain if you will ever be able to trust again.

-You are uncertain if you can put the pieces back together.

-You are uncertain if you’ll ever be able to feel close to God like you once did.

Sometimes where you are feels hopeless:

-You’ve lost hope in your marriage.

-You’ve lost hope in your relationship with God.

-You’ve lost hope in the word of a good friend.

-You’ve lost hope in your ability to pretend to have it all together.

-You’ve lost hope in all the Sunday School answers.

-You’ve lost hope in hope.

If this is you, I know where you are. I’ve been where you are. Where you are right now is just a few inches from redemption. Where you are right now is dark, but you’re just a few hours from the light. Where you are it feels like it’s over, but keep fighting, keep hoping, keep believing, because it’s not over.

Take heart today. You are not alone. Be certain that in your uncertainty, God is not overwhelmed or surprised or dismayed. Even when you feel hopeless, He is the author of hope.

I’ll be honest, I don’t have a quick fix or a magic formula to give you today. There is no “3 Steps to a Better Life” in this post. I just want you to know…

I’ve been there. I’m praying for you. I know where you are, and so does God.

10 Responses to I Know Where You Are

  1. Thank you so much for your words. I am a few days late on reading this, but this is exactly what I needed to hear today. My husband and I are in the process of rebuilding our marriage and there are days that seem so dark and hopeless. It feels like a roller coaster sometimes….where things are looking up, then a day later it feels like the rug is being pulled out from under us again.

    I feel so desperate for things to be resurrected in my marriage.

  2. Wow. Thank you. I need this. I am so lost recently and want to just give up. All my shortcomings (read: sins I commit without even knowing) overwhelm me. I need to be reminded of His grace. And that there is hope.

  3. Kristil

    alone, uncertain, hopeless…Wow Justin, you hit the nail right on the head. It is so easy to let these feelings overwhelm your mind and make you feel like you are the only one experiencing these things. Sometimes when I come to church services and see all the happy smiling faces it is easy to think that they really have it all together, so why am I so miserable and confused. It is good to be reminded that they are just as broken as me and just because I don’t know their story doesn’t mean everything is right in their world.

    The main thing I am loving about Cross Point is the willingness of the people, and mostly the pastors, to openly admit their mistakes and acknowledge that they too have the same problems as we all do and are struggling with the answers right along with us.

    Thanks for the reminder and another awesome post!!

  4. While I don’t know that I feel 100% better, reading this DOES lift my heart a little tonight as I feel so close to defeated. Thank you for always speaking such beautiful truths that make you stop and really take a moment to allow God to embrace you and help fix whatever mess you’re in.

  5. LS

    whew…really needed this post and reminder today. thanks for sharing and the encouragement!

      • I mean it, your posts encourage me and I send ones like this to my husband who left me a year and a half ago. Not sure if he reads them and not sure why I send them. But I always feel led to send them so I do…..thanks again!!

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