Perfection vs Brokenness

A little over 8 years ago, our marriage was in serious jeopardy. We had no clue if we were going to be able to put the pieces back together again. In a moment of desperation, a friend called Focus on the Family and handed Trisha the phone. The crisis counselor on the other end of the phone gave Trish counsel that forever changed our marriage and laid the foundation for each of us to pursue brokenness.

It was brokenness that allowed us to not have an improved version of our old marriage, but instead a brand new marriage.

It was very humbling to be invited to spend the day at Focus on the Family talking about our book, Beyond Ordinary and the grace and redemption of God.

If you weren’t able to listen to the broadcast last week, you can download the MP3 of both Parts 1 and 2 HERE.

Focus on the Family also posted a conversation we had with Jim Daly, president of Focus on the Family about the difference between perfection and brokenness. You can watch this five-minute episode below as well.

(If you can’t see the video below, you can click HERE)

If you or someone you know are experiencing a crisis in your life or marriage, we can’t recommend the crisis hotline at Focus on the Family enough. It is a service they provide free of charge. It can provide you with immediate help and next steps.

4 Responses to Perfection vs Brokenness

  1. New marriage

    Thanks for sharing your story. I had my husband listen to it last night. Your story is our story. We are just over a year into the healing process. My husband too was addicted to pron and had a 6week affair (thankfully it was discovered before it got beyond emotional) with my friend and former secretary from our church. It adds an extra hurt to not only be betrayed by your husband but also by someone you thought of as a friend. God is amazing and we are slowly putting back the pieces and figuring out where we went wrong. We have a new and different love for each other. For the first time in our marriage we really understand what it means to love someone for better or for worse. I look forward to what God has planned for our new marriage!!

  2. New marriage

    Thanks for sharing your story. I had my husband listen to it last night. Your story is our story. We are just over a year into the healing process. My husband too was addicted to pron and had a 6week affair (thankfully it was discovered before it got beyond emotional) with my friend and former secretary from our church. It add an extra hurt to not only be betrayed by your husband but also by someone you thought of as a friend. God is amazing and we are slowly putting back the pieces and figuring out where we went wrong. We have a new and different love for each other. For the first time in our marriage we really understand what it meas to love someone for better or for worse. I look forward to what God has planned for our new marriage!!

  3. the healing wife

    I will never forget my own phone call to Focus on the Family, after my sister recommended it to me, when the crisis hit our marriage. I am forever grateful for their sound and godly advice, the reading material they sent me, the marriage retreat they found for us and for the sincere thoughtfulness and love the counselor extended to me that day on the phone.

    I hope we will be able to financially support them one day, to be able to help the next person who calls in needing help. What a wonderful resource FOTF is. God bless them!