The Most Dangerous Word in Marriage

A few times per year we host a small gathering of couples in Nashville for the RefineUs Weekend Experience. Our last weekend of 2015 was this past weekend. (New Dates for 2016 announced soon!) Best-of-2013-VSCO-05-35

During a break, I was talking to one of the husbands and asked him what brought he and his wife to Nashville for the weekend. He said something that resonated with me:

“Procrastination. I was busy building my career and building our bank account and I told myself I’d get around to building my marriage. Now we’re in crisis so I can’t put it off any longer.”

The most dangerous word in a marriage relationship is, “tomorrow.”

Tomorrow you will go on a date night. Tomorrow you will find a babysitter and spend quality time together. Tomorrow you will be home from work on time. Tomorrow you will sit down for dinner together. Tomorrow you will work on your budget. Tomorrow you’ll take time for sexual intimacy. Tomorrow you’ll resolve that conflict.

Tomorrow always promises more than it delivers and delays the marriage you truly desire.

Our marriage was nearly destroyed by, “tomorrow.” Tomorrow we’ll go to counseling. Tomorrow we’ll make time for each other. Tomorrow we’ll make changes. Tomorrow we’ll be intentional…until there was almost no tomorrow.

We can’t get better at anything today by waiting until tomorrow. 

Today is the day.

  • Go for a walk
  • Send that text over lunch saying you miss her
  • Turn the TV off for an hour and talk
  • Go see a movie
  • Have dinner around the table and not on the couch

Do something different, so you can have something different.

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