The People That Surround You Are Engraved in You (Guest Post from Micah Davis)
It’s been a long time since I last wrote a blog post. It was a little over 4 years ago, actually. I was 15, my voice was high and squeaky, I was awkward, and about to face the biggest obstacle of my life up to that point: High School. Oh, how trivial it seems to think about how big and scary I thought High School would be. The movies make it seem like a teenage prison; the jocks rule, and the nerds are repeatedly tortured day in and day out. Those in the middle just stay out of the way. I would be lying to you if I said that my High School didn’t have cliques. In fact, most of High School I was associated with one. We had different names for our friend groups throughout the years: The Crew, Nibblerz, and as recently as our group text name, The WolfPack. It sounds funny, and really it is. Sure, our friend groups were never like the movies, we didn’t run around our High School wreaking havoc throughout the hallways every day. Of course, we caused some trouble, but it was all out of unserious playfulness and love. I’m thankful for my school. I loved all of the people I encountered there, but those 6 or 7 closest friends that I have really have taught me a lot. Even in just the last few weeks (months after we’ve graduated high school).
I say all of that to say this: If there was one thing that I took away from high school, it would be this; relationships are the foundation of a healthy life.
No, not the fundamental theorem of calculus, not the periodic table, not how to write a 5 point thesis, and surely not how many people died in the Storming of the Bastille in 1789. Sure, all of those things are important and I will be taking them with me to college this next year, but the relationships I made with those 7 special guys in High School are truly forever. We text day in and day out, even face timing sometimes, with me already at Indiana Wesleyan, a few still in Nashville, one already at Western Kentucky, and another already at Ole Miss, our athletic schedules keep us busy and it’s tough to stay in contact. Yet, those guys don’t skip a beat with me, and that’s what true friendships are all about right? Intentionality and unconditional love.
So what does this all mean? Well, through those friendships, the dating relationships I had in High School, and my relationship with my family and God, it all brought me to this conclusion:
The people that Surround me are engraved in me.
That was a scary thing to think about, but it’s true. Every interaction we have has some type of affect on us, whether positive or negative. The more time we spend with a person, the more of an impact they have on us. I’ve been blessed personally, because the girl and guy I spent most of High School with both had huge positive impacts on me, sure some hurt occurred too, but for the most part, there are things I’ll carry from both of them the rest of my life. I’ve also been blessed by great parents. I don’t just say this because I’m writing on their blog, I say it because I mean it. Ask me at any moment of any day who my hero is and my answer is the same: my father. Ask me who my rock and my comforter is and the answer is also the same: my mother. This all culminated yesterday in getting my first tattoo. My mother’s handwriting was literally engraved into my skin. And that’s because I trust her with my life, and her advice has changed the course of my life as I’ve gotten older.
I hope you don’t look at all of this as a bragging post on the incredible people I have in my life. I have been hurt by some pretty terrible people throughout High School, and until recently, I sought love and validation so much that I was willing to give my all to those who would use me just to receive that. It has taken a lot of hard work to root out the bad people and keep the good people in my life. The closer you can get to that step though, the better your life will be.
Because in this life, relationships and community are everything, and those closest to you will shape you. I’m not perfect, and I still have a lot of work to do even in my best relationships. But know that you’re not alone in this fight, that everyone is searching for a true friend, I pray you find that.