5 Things Your Wife Needs to Hear from You
Aug 28, 2022As husbands, God has given us guys a responsibility to speak words of truth into our wife’s heart. Every day, there are lies of discouragement and doubt that the enemy tries to place in their mind. Our role is to come along side them; encourage them and remind them of truth.
Here are five things that I try (I don’t always get this right) to speak into Trisha’s heart sincerely and consistently.
1. I Love You
I am amazed at the power of these three words. Sometimes they are spoken in person, sometimes over the phone, sometimes in a text or a hand written card or note. I try to tell my wife I love her several times per day.
2. You are Beautiful
For our wives, a huge battle for them is their self-image. How they view themselves. I want my wife to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I think she is beautiful. I want her to hear me say it. I want her to see it in my eyes. I want her to go through her day believing that she is beautiful. I think she is, so I try to tell her as often as I can.
3. I’m Sorry
I hate conflict, so I used to apologize for everything. I don’t do that anymore. I have grown to see conflict in my relationship with Trisha as an opportunity to grow in intimacy with her. I embrace conflict. But, when I am wrong or when I have hurt her feelings, I say I’m sorry. Saying your sorry for consequences is different than saying your sorry for choices. I try to make sure I am at a place when I apologize, that I am sorry for my choice and not just the reaction or consequence of my choice. It makes all the difference.
4. I Believe In You
Our wives need to know that no matter what, we are their biggest cheerleader. It doesn’t matter if your wife is a stay at home mom or a CEO of a Fortune 500 company…she needs to know you believe in her. She needs to know that you support her and you have confidence in her.
5. How Can I Pray for You?
This is one that opens up rich conversation. This question implies I want to know my wife’s heart. When Trisha shares with me how I can pray for her, she is sharing with me those things that are closest and most precious to her…her fears; her insecurities; her imperfections; her frustrations. This question connects us on a spiritual and emotional level.
I don’t make a lot of guarantees here at RefineUs. Every couple is different and every marriage is different. But I guarantee that if you begin to speak these 5 things into your wife’s heart, your marriage will change. Your heart will grow. You will become more in tune to who your wife is and what her needs are. You will be God’s mouthpiece of truth into the heart of your wife. There isn’t much that is better than that!
