Pride More Important than Healing

Trisha and I get asked the same question a lot. “What can I do to save/improve/restore my marriage?”

Because every situation is different; personalities are different; problems are different; mistakes are different; there isn’t one answer. But more often than not, our encouragement to every couple is to talk about their problems with someone. Sometimes we suggest meeting with a counselor. Sometimes we ask people to share what they are experiencing with their small group. There are times we suggest they share with a family member.

Most of the time, not always, those suggestions are met with an unwillingness to take that risk.

I don’t know your story. I don’t know if there is a hidden sin in your life. I don’t know if your marriage is on the verge of implosion. I have no idea if you have an addiction that you have tried to overcome. But I know this to be true for me and I think it is true for you.

When our pride or our reputation or how people perceive us is more important than our healing, we will not heal. I said no to healing in favor of reputation for years. In the end, I lost both.

When you care most about healing; about becoming whole; about overcoming what has you in bondage…you won’t care who knows. You will stop worrying about what others think.

Maybe what’s keeping your marriage down isn’t your spouse…it’s your pride. Maybe what’s keeping you addicted is your unwillingness to come out of hiding.

Maybe today is the day that healing becomes more important to you than your pride…than your rep?