4 Questions that Lead to Freedom

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Why do we hide so easily? Fear of rejection. Fear of judgment. Fear of the consequences of honesty. Fear of losing a relationship. No decision made in fear is ever healthy. I think it was Andy Stanley that said, “We fear the consequences of confession because we have yet to realize the consequences of concealment.” I spent three years in an “accountability “ relationship in which I wasn’t transparent. I…

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Jared Fogle and Sexual Brokenness

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Like you, I’ve been stunned the past few days hearing details of the Jared Fogle case. Our family just moved to Zionsivlle, Indiana, where Jared Fogle lives so the intensity of the story has been very noticeable in this community. I was sexually abused as a child. My heart breaks for the 14 victims and their families as they try to put the pieces of their lives back together. My…

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So Long Perfectionism


I was talking to a friend the other day about some issues he was having in a relationship. Tension was high. Frustration was thick. Expectations were not being met. He asked my advice. I gave it. I said, “You are a perfectionist. You have to be perfect in every aspect of your life and you are expecting this person (that you have problems with) to be perfect. You want the relationship…

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The Labels We Choose


Every day people search the internet for answers. Medical answers. Parenting tips. Cooking instruction. Marriage help. Every day I can see what people type into their search to find our web site. The top searches in the picture above is pretty much the same each day. It is sobering to think that somewhere, at some moment, in some city, someone typed into Google, “Cheating Pastors” and they were directed to me…

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Your Husband’s Greatest Fear


There is a universal fear that every husband has. This fear keeps us up at night and wakes us up in the morning. It isn’t talked about much because we don’t like admitting we’re afraid. Being afraid, we believe, makes us less of a man. Most of us had childhood fears. There is something endearing about a little boy that is scared of the dark. But as we get older,…

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A Battle You Must Fight


To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.  E.E. Cummings More than anything else your wife needs you to be you today. More than anything else your husband needs you to be you today. More than anyone else, your friends love you…

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Check Your Texts


No one thinks they will have an affair. We don’t get married with a date circled on the calendar when we will break our marriage vows. You know how most inappropriate relationships start? They start in a non-inappropriate way. Texting. Facebook. Social Media. Here is the problem…people are always more bold and more courageous over text, Twitter and Facebook than they ever would be in person and lines get blurry…

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On Losing Your Dream


Have you ever had a dream die? Ever had something you put your heart and soul come into fruition, only to be lost in the end? Maybe it was your marriage. Maybe it was your career. Maybe it was a new business. Maybe it was a relationship. When you lost it, you lost a part of yourself. Maybe your dream was lost due to the economy. Maybe your dream died…

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The Most Important Question


It’s no secret that life has been pretty hectic for us over the past few months. Our travel schedule has been full, our kids’ sports season is in full swing, life has been busy. In a moment of quiet a few days ago, I felt God prompt me with this question: “Am I enough for you?” It’s easy for me value God’s “presents” more than I value his “presence.” I…

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Protect Your Rep


I lived the majority of my life trying to build and protect my reputation. In that process, I didn’t do the hard work of character development. Reputation and character are two different things. Reputation is what others believe to be true about you. Character is who you really are. When you’re driven by reputation, then you begin to equate what you project to others as your character. We guard our…

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